Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial independent, regardless of what situation I am currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else. I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live, or personal choice. Regardless were you are in life, some thoughts that you need to consider before you relay on someone else for support.
For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores). This is good for our independence, we also have a very good social benefits that gives us 1 year paid leave and good childcare possibilities. But still, we need to have control over our financial situation. However we do not get a divorce settlements.
I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, ( I have been there myself) save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle, and start out early. Make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, sickness, unemployment, start your own business and much more.
Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver! And being able to help your children financially is such a great gift.
So all you woman and men out there, take care of yourself primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end. And no! It´s never to late nor do you need to feel a shamed of not understanding or finding saving interesting in anyway. It´s usually not.
Be the Queen in your life- take care of yourself in all ways – no one else will