Mother of 4-creating a better future for the next generation women – my daughters, passionated about fitness! and staying healthy #fitness
Author: We women
A mother of 4, a loving explorer. With a passion for health and a better future for us all. Thoughts about getting older, being true to your self and maintain focus through tough times. Relationships in general and embrace being a women in a mans world.
I have been a mom for more than 25 years. My youngest is 11, so still a couple of more years were my services is still needed.
The other day my coworker and good friends (despite the age difference of 22 years) asked me a valid question, – aren’t you ever tired of thinking about everyone else but yourself? Numerous of times when she calls me, I have been forced to text her saying I can’t take you call due to being busy making dinner, coaching soccer, visiting relatives, grocery shopping or talking on the phone with either my parents, any of my children or friends or doing any other typical mom shore.
She (my young friend) is like a lot of young women of today busy with just being herself. The other day, when we (me and her ) was talking on the phone and I was busy as making a snack for my son before he was heading to his soccer practice – she just said straight out! I don’t ever want to become a mom. You are always busy, with something or someone. You are never ever just on your own.
And it got me thinking. Is she self centered or self loving?
To be honest, I love my children to death and would do anything for them, but with that said – I am also missing me, and myself. And all the joy that comes without must and chores, and caring for others.and yes of course I would choose my kids in a heartbeat if I had to choose but still!!
Is it self centered to have only oneself to care for or is it self love? .
Just the word it says implicate a transition or a pause or and end of something. If you are lucky, you might get away with minor symptoms, some unfortunately not – if you have problems with night sweats and other symptoms please – read more about that here – soon up1
I see the whole process as going through a major life change, for better or worse. It´s a new period, that truly marks a new beginning. Most of us have grown children or at least on their way to become adults. For the first time in many years we can actually experience freedom on a different level.
And sure it might feel sad when you reach menopause and your body clearly state that you can not bare children anymore. But it is also a good. You´re body have created new humans and now it´s time to create something new. Look at your self and revaluate your knowledge and skills and use it to be of assistance to something new. It is time for YOU!
If you are like most of us, you might be lost, not really knowing what to do. We women take motherhood extremely focused. When we become mothers nothing else really matters, you are a mother and that is the only thing that counts.
But honestly, when you reached this beloved age, where your body is no longer in the service of creating new humans – you should take the opportunity to use your knowledge to build something new, something that will bring YOU joy and pleasure. Do you remember what made you tick before you become a mother/wife? what was it? Do you recall? Find it again and work on it. or find something else. Its time for you now, time for a new beginning.
Yes, i know its a worn out topic these days- but it is so important, I can not stress this enough. I find it sad to see so many women totally lost in a made up world. Picture perfect on the outside but totally empty on the inside.
I see these women, living up to the standard, I do to, to a certain extent, I care about my health, looks but with that said- I also care about my soul, and who I am. I was lost for many years, lost in a fake persona – who I thought I wanted to become. I was striving towards what society made up to be a norm for success, not understanding my own value, or what I can actually bring to the table. It took years to where I am today, and I am still learning, exploring and developing each and every day. Undertand the importance in self-development and always strive to become the best version of you, without being guilty. We women much more then men work from our emotions. Always consulting and considering others before we make our decision. We like to feel that we have a our backs covered, it makes us feel more secure, but is it really? If you always need to have someone else take the lead in your decisions? I´m not saying that it is wrong to consult in others now and then, just make sure that the final decision comes from you.
Because, you can hide for a while, but soon enough it will start eating you alive. And most certain it will either make you sick or make you depressed. So you have the choice, make a good one.
You are here for a reason, live up to that, it´s your path-walk it!
I am an introvert, but with great social skills. I definitely need my own space and time to “recharge”.
It’s important to actually spend time on you, all alone, to reflect and find yourself again. So many people are totally lost, and have no idea who they are or what they want. They are trapped in other peoples stories. No wonder people are feeling depressed. If you are constantly living someone else’s life- how for filling is that?
I believe we all need alone time to think, that is why meditation is so popular right now. It’s also a way to beat dementia, depression and all kinds of mental illnesses.
I do it differently depending on my mood, but yoga flow is a part of it. During the weekdays I get up an hour earlier to have “alone time” with my yoga pass.
Another favorite is running, yes it might sound strange, but it works as meditation for me. I take of for a medium jog, just to clear my mind.
I also make sure to listen to good motivational speakers from now and then just to remind me of where I am going.
Food is the source to wellness for sure, I hope more people understand the power of good nutrition foods. What you feed your body will actually show on your overall health.
As a small child I had numerous of skin and over all health problems. I was always sick, mostly ear and throat infections. I was constantly on penicillin and all it did was was killing my good gut bacterias.
My joint started to ace at the age of 15 as well as my kidneys, It was a dead end loop. During my 20th I was battling astma (disappeared when I was expecting my second child), during my 30th I was OK, some skin issues. Not until I was in my 40th and my daughter was diagnosed with gluten intolerant it finally occurred that that was what I had to.
It took a good 6 mons for me to heal, and gradually my body started to respond in a positive way. Today if I cheat and eat gluten, my body can handle it up to a certain point- then boom – all the symptoms shows up, eczema, joint pain and a sense of feeling low.
So today, I eat good, healthy food, mostly plant based, due to lack of good bacterias in my stomach, I need to take supplements. I practice intermitting fasting, I believe that our body needs the break from processing food, especially as we grow older and cell turnovers as well as metabolism slows down.