Is it finally OK to become older if you are a woman? or do older women become invisible? I undertand the biology behind it, older women cannot reproduce anymore and become less interesting in because of that, but what else is there? There must be more to the story?
In my eyes these women are the strongest people walking on this earth. They have been through so much and have developed in to such strong individuals. Not only have they been through all sorts of hormonal changes, they have been project leaders taking care of children, husbands and their home and maybe she has even managed to squeeze in a career as well.
After all she has been through she should be honored and worshiped. So what is it that makes aging difficult for women? Why do a we continue chasing youth? Would we chase it the same way if women past 50 where looked upp on as marvelous creators? If they where able to bloom fully without dreading being tradeoff for a younger model?
However I do see a different trend approaching a trend where older women finally are accepted the same way older men are. ‘I am unsure if men fancy the trend as much as we women do. See all these beauties in a full set of grey hair, models working actively way up in their 60-70.
So does it mean that we can finally stop chasing youth? that we can finally relax and become true heroes way up in our 70ties? And don´t forget that beauty is only skin deep, the most beautiful thing is the person inside – all that fantastic knowledge and wisdom she have gained during all those years.
The older I get, the stronger I become- Inside. I feel better then I have felt in years and that is because I am being more relaxed to the outside world. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone anymore. I don’t need to say yes, if I don’t want that.
I am not perfect in anyway but I am happy with what I got, what I have accomplished over the years and most of all I am happy to be the person I am today.
So yes, you still need to work on yourself but in the meantime don’t forget to stop and look how far you have come. How wonderful life can be if you give it the right thoughts. Become the person want to become.
Give your self a mission and follow it. You will blossom, I promise. Love yourself and keep feeding yourself with good thoughts.
And yes, work on your physique as well, to keep mind and body in balance ⭐️
What´s happening to women and men around the age of 40? A lot of us are going through what´s called midlife crises. It might not be something you at first relate as a crises, but more of a life change. Once you are there you know, you start question everything around you. Is my job the correct one for me? Is this the body I want? What about friends and most of all what about the relationships I am in? is it the correct one?
I firmly believe it´s a scare of getting older and eventually death. You have reach a milestone where you have accomplish a lot of things, maybe you had your career, there is no a thrill in chasing a better position. You mirror image does not match your outside anymore. You´re no longer your childrens no 1, all of a sudden they have their own agenda. Your partner might go through changes as well and what was once was a solid united WE is more shattered peaces of memories.
Either way something is knocking on that door, so how should you look at it in a sober manner? Understanding that this is a new phase and work yourself though it. Look at all the aspects that pops up and go though them peacefully. Step by step. Start with yourself and try to figure out what it is you want with your career? a career change is perfect now, you are older wiser and still have many more years to give. How about that body? are you giving it the correct amount of exercise, good food? Maybe it´s time for a different exercise routine?STAY YOUNGER FITNESS The last part you should look at is your relationship. Don´t think that a change of partner will bring you happiness. The change is going on inside you, it has nothing to do with your outside world.
Still welcome it, you need to fine tune your life again, and go through it on your own. No one or nothing on the outside world can make the changes for you. You need to do it, and stop calling it crises it´s finding a new you.
I hope 🤞 that you have gone through life with a large share of happiness and some must needed struggles. I see all struggles as a a part of the school of life. And most of all I see it as a sort of wake up call to guide you back to the path- you are meant to walk.
With age comes smartness in the sense of what you can actually contribute to the world 🌎. When you are young, you have a different set of drive and fearlessness, this is the best time to explore that! Hopefully you have tried everything that came your way, and dared to let your fantasies run wild.
As you are getting older a different set of responsibilities emerge, responsibilities mostly towards others. And with that comes limitations of course, but also a lot of love and happiness.
So how do you age smart? Well use your knowledge and spread it to others. You have gain so much wisdom during your life, it’s time to spread it. What stopping you? And with that, you should also live your life with dignity and respect.
Respecting yourself is crucial. Take care of yourself in all ways. You know by now what you enjoy – priorities that. You have earned it. Help others without it being a burden- see what your help actually provides to others. it’s actually proven that helping others maintain your sense of belonging which is such an important health indicator when becoming older.
Body and mind go hand in hand, always remember that and if you treat your body as a temple and your mind as a GOD, you will age smartly . With happiness comes beauty in all ways.
What is your main reason for training? I exercise for a couple of reasons but mainly because my brain loves it, It makes me feel really good. And it´s known that exercise release the “feel good hormones” endorphins. And that super hormone reduces stress as well as reduces your perception of pain. Beside that it helps me maintain a healthy weight as well as keep my body toned.
Most of our time is spent in an office, or at least most of our time is spent sitting down. Add that we usually have a stressful life that adds allot of stiffness to our body. Both mind and body will react to a stressful lifestyle.
And even thoughts can be stressful, not only having a hectic schedule. You might go through a crises or a lifetime change, the last thing on your mind might be going to the gym. But this is the time you should hit the gym.If the gym is to much of a challenge, go for a walk in the forest or a park is to be preferred.
Even children all ages need this as they are a generation who are spending more and more time online and less time outside.
Our brain is the same as it was 40 000 years and back then our body was in constant movement outside- and our brain still needs the outdoor and or body needs the exercise. When possible I will walk or take my bike, seldom you will see me in the car or for that matter on the bus. That way I will get my daily exercise. To keep flexible I add daily Yoga practice 20-30 minutes max. But It is also very important to get your pulse up and sweat, to release toxins.
Commitment a beautiful word in many ways. Commit to yourself first off . It might sounds like the most natural thing to do, but it is not. Commitment is a way to actually reach your long for-filling goals. Commit and you will eventually reach them. But commitment is and can also be something challenging.
The commitment of being a good parants for an example. How simple it might sound but what a challenging reward it is. Even with healthy children it is hard sometimes. As much I believe in guiding my children through childhood, I strongly believe that my children are sent to teach me things as well. So how do one commit to being a good parent?
The same goes with other relationships, your spouse, how do you commit to a long lasting and happy relationships in a world that is ever changing? As you go through life you face difficulties in many ways, and you change. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago – far from that. So, should I expect my spouse to still be committed to me? Is it fair? Are we obligatet to stay committed even after 50 years together. Well of course not, we all have a choice but the choice is not easy. Do women and men commit differently?
Even the relationship with my parents have changed. What is my commitment to them? I want to be there for them as they get older and even they go through changes. I am stepping in and becoming more as their parent, then their daughter, and as much as I love them, I was not really expecting this. Did I commit to that? I know, I should be thankful that they are still around and alive. And I am forever grateful for them being their when I grew up, but still.
So overall commitment in the right way is good, but maybe we should not put to much effort into all our commitment. And why not rewrite the commitments now and then, just to understand and accept each others changes. Maybe we should just leave it open and commit to life,and nothing more and with life comes changes, lets just to commit to that!
Taking care of the body and mind goes hand in hand, the older I get the more important it gets to really listen in, and you do it through your soul.
A couple of years ago, I did not listen, well that was not really true. I was listening but I refused to pay attention to the signals I was getting and that unfortunately left me with chronic skin issues, mostly related to my skin. I was a pleaser in many ways and was battling with selfempowerment.
I was the nice, kind one. Always flexible and happy to anyone else but myself. Anyway, it led to problems with my skin, real skin problems.
It started out as rash around my eyes which spread to other parts of the body. This was getting really bad to a point were I could barely go out. I went to the doctor who prescribe different ornament that made my skin temporary better for a short awhile. But nothing really helped and it was so depressing. Superficial? maybe but still. So I started to listen in and also experiment with cutting out certain foods, mainly gluten and dairy.
And sure enough things started to get better. Today I am 99% gluten free by choice and my skin is much better. So now I take time to listen in and focus on just nurturing my body with good thoughts, healthy food and couple of NO´s now and then. My skin is still an issue from time to time. But if I eat well, and listen in, my body and mind are in balance and I feel great.
So from now on, I have decided to really be good to my self, by that i mean really eating healthy, what ever that means :)- More vegan, less sugar, less salt,and more meditating, pilates and me time.