What is your whisper? as a woman?

As a modern woman, I enjoy becoming older in many ways, most because I see a clear difference in the way women are able to bloom the way they are suppose to. I strongly believe that we all have a cal,l a purpose, a meaning. You might not know what it is, but sooner or later you will find that inner whisper.

The best part of growing older is that you are more in tune with your self. You have been through hardships and pains, happy places as well as sad. These hardships have shaped you to the person you are today. It can be good and of course bad. But you and only you have the power to change if you want to. Is it your time now to become who you want to become. Listen in to that voice to that inner whisper, what is it telling you?

I have had the privilege to be surrounded by some strong women, but also some that that are a bit lost. I was also a bit lost, I think we all are from time to time, it all comes down to believing in yourself and trusting that inner whisper. Looking at my daughters I feel so proud, they are so strong and smart and fully aware of their capabilities, as many of the young woman out there today. We can thank older women who has walk the path before us, who has struggled and won, who have raised strong and warm sons and daughters who are today the parent of these strong daughters and also sons.

So all you out there, take time to listen in to your inner voice. The world need your service in one way or another, regardless of what your surrounding tells you.

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Midlife crises for a new you

What´s happening to women and men around the age of 40? A lot of us are going through what´s called midlife crises. It might not be something you at first relate as a crises, but more of a life change. Once you are there you know, you start question everything around you. Is my job the correct one for me? Is this the body I want? What about friends and most of all what about the relationships I am in? is it the correct one?

I firmly believe it´s a scare of getting older and eventually death. You have reach a milestone where you have accomplish a lot of things, maybe you had your career, there is no a thrill in chasing a better position. You mirror image does not match your outside anymore. You´re no longer your childrens no 1, all of a sudden they have their own agenda. Your partner might go through changes as well and what was once was a solid united WE is more shattered peaces of memories.

Either way something is knocking on that door, so how should you look at it in a sober manner? Understanding that this is a new phase and work yourself though it. Look at all the aspects that pops up and go though them peacefully. Step by step. Start with yourself and try to figure out what it is you want with your career? a career change is perfect now, you are older wiser and still have many more years to give. How about that body? are you giving it the correct amount of exercise, good food? Maybe it´s time for a different exercise routine?STAY YOUNGER FITNESS The last part you should look at is your relationship. Don´t think that a change of partner will bring you happiness. The change is going on inside you, it has nothing to do with your outside world.

Still welcome it, you need to fine tune your life again, and go through it on your own. No one or nothing on the outside world can make the changes for you. You need to do it, and stop calling it crises it´s finding a new you.

The price of commitment

Commitment a beautiful word in many ways. Commit to yourself first off . It might sounds like the most natural thing to do, but it is not. Commitment is a way to actually reach your long for-filling goals. Commit and you will eventually reach them. But commitment is and can also be something challenging.

The commitment of being a good parants for an example. How simple it might sound but what a challenging reward it is. Even with healthy children it is hard sometimes. As much I believe in guiding my children through childhood, I strongly believe that my children are sent to teach me things as well. So how do one commit to being a good parent?

The same goes with other relationships, your spouse, how do you commit to a long lasting and happy relationships in a world that is ever changing? As you go through life you face difficulties in many ways, and you change. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago – far from that. So, should I expect my spouse to still be committed to me? Is it fair? Are we obligatet to stay committed even after 50 years together. Well of course not, we all have a choice but the choice is not easy. Do women and men commit differently?

Even the relationship with my parents have changed. What is my commitment to them? I want to be there for them as they get older and even they go through changes. I am stepping in and becoming more as their parent, then their daughter, and as much as I love them, I was not really expecting this. Did I commit to that? I know, I should be thankful that they are still around and alive. And I am forever grateful for them being their when I grew up, but still.

So overall commitment in the right way is good, but maybe we should not put to much effort into all our commitment. And why not rewrite the commitments now and then, just to understand and accept each others changes. Maybe we should just leave it open and commit to life,and nothing more and with life comes changes, lets just to commit to that!

Commit to life

Financially secure=Freedom

Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial independent, regardless of what situation I am currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else. I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live, or personal choice. Regardless were you are in life, some thoughts that you need to consider before you relay on someone else for support.

For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores). This is good for our independence, we also have a very good social benefits that gives us 1 year paid leave and good childcare possibilities. But still, we need to have control over our financial situation. However we do not get a divorce settlements.

I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, ( I have been there myself) save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle, and start out early. Make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, sickness, unemployment, start your own business and much more.

Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver! And being able to help your children financially is such a great gift.

So all you woman and men out there, take care of yourself primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end. And no! It´s never to late nor do you need to feel a shamed of not understanding or finding saving interesting in anyway. It´s usually not.

Be the Queen in your life- take care of yourself in all ways – no one else will

Staying body and mind sharp through menopause

I know it´s a topic that have mixed feelings, some of us dread the menopause approach some of us enjoy it. Yes, you are getting older, and it marks the end of youth and fertility in a way. However it also mark the beginning of something new- a stronger better you!

Hormons – or the lack of them or actually the change of the hormonal mix, will leave you with a different mind and body. Make sure to eat optimal eat natural not precessed food. Sleep for example, always have had an issue with sleep, never ever was a sound sleeper. I sleep for 6,5 to 7 hrs tops, that is for me a good night sleep. But most of all the biggest change for me has been my mind. I have become allot stronger mentally. I do have periods where I have felt a bit lost and not really recognize myself.

It´s time to take care of body and mind and most of all create a balance between them. Stop pressuring yourself to much and let go of negative influences. I seldom listen to the news and by choice keep an positive attitude. Not always easy, I feel a lot of people have a negative attitude form the get go, constantly thinking negative thought, regardless were they are in life.

I have set a couple of goals to maintain and create a better future or a future that I want. I going in to a new phase in life. First of is your mind, are you happy with your life? Is this were you picture your self 10 years ago? If not, what is strategy for removing yourself from your current state?

Second your body, I am currently working on my body, nutrition and exercise, to be able to reach my goal I need to change, change my way of thinking, and that is the hardest part, old habits die hard, especially thinking habits.

Top tips to feel your best

  1. Love yourself
  2. Nutrition – eat clean , minimize sugar intake and eat lot´s of greens and fermented soya based foods as it´s has a positive effect on the estrogen
  3. Exercise – not to hard your body needs to recover, but hard enough to break out a sweat, go up early, light a candle and do yoga, it will keep you flexible, try if for 20 minutes 5 days a week. A great start in the morning.
  4. Sleep – hard one, but if you have trouble sleeping, please make sure to at least eat proper as you brains needs the nutritions
  5. Find your inne purpose, if lost or forgotten
  6. Do fun for filling things – take time to enjoy life

Reflection – body and mind

Body issues – past 40

Wow, where to start? I am strong believer in loving your self and really embrace what life has giving you. We are all beautiful inside and out, you know that already, but still. As a woman, you go through a lot of changes during life. The biggest changes comes often after childbirth, some things are going south, and believe me something are going north.

With estrogen decreasing in your body, changes start happening. Fat deposits moves, you might find your behind become flatter, and if you are blessed with a waist, you might find parts of your behind is actually moving north, ending up around your waist as muffin tops. You are also loosing muscle mass, and with loosing muscle mass comes loose skin as there is no muscle underneath supporting it..

You need to change you exercise routine, you need to opt up the weight lifting to keep your muscle tone, and skip the really long distance runs as this is quite stressful for the body. As you get older your cell turnover is a lot slower, and it takes longer time for the body to recover. If you do HIIT do it no more then 3 times a week and do Yoga for flexibility.

I use Jojoba oil, both for body and face. I like the softness it brings and also that it is very natural, with that said, i use stronger retinal product as well. You need stronger product with aging skin, not only on your face and neck, but also on the rest of your body. Dry scrubbing is very much needed, every other day to get rid of old dull skin, before hitting the shower.

And most of all – Be happy, if you are not happy, make it your goal to be.

Refuse becoming old – embrace aging

As a women, specially in the western part of the world we are constantly bombarded with tips on how to stay young. I feel a bit sad, as there is nothing wrong with aging. It´s actually a gift, with age comes a matureness, an deeper understanding for others, a love for life and general happier view on life. We should be grateful for every morning we wake up, as it is a true miracle. With that said, you do not have to become old just because you are getting older.

I meet people all the time who are saying – I am to old for that, that is not for me, I am an old woman , old man and so on! If you limit yourself to those thoughts – you are old. It´s all in your mind. If you limit your life and loose your sense of curiosity as well as your willingness to try new things – you will become old.

We are seeing a trend in aging women on the catwalk, grey ambassadors (stop coloring their hair) and much more. All of a sudden it´s actually cool to embrace your aging- I love it! Saying this, you still need to keep your self healthy and even more relevant keep active and care for your body and mind in a different way then you did when you were younger. Learn to love yourself in a new way, give your self the respect you deserve and why not try something different?

Refuse getting old – but embrace aging.

Refuse dressing for the fall season- keep the flip flop on😊