Financially secure=Freedom

Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial independent, regardless of what situation I am currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else. I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live, or personal choice. Regardless were you are in life, some thoughts that you need to consider before you relay on someone else for support.

For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores). This is good for our independence, we also have a very good social benefits that gives us 1 year paid leave and good childcare possibilities. But still, we need to have control over our financial situation. However we do not get a divorce settlements.

I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, ( I have been there myself) save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle, and start out early. Make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, sickness, unemployment, start your own business and much more.

Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver! And being able to help your children financially is such a great gift.

So all you woman and men out there, take care of yourself primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end. And no! It´s never to late nor do you need to feel a shamed of not understanding or finding saving interesting in anyway. It´s usually not.

Be the Queen in your life- take care of yourself in all ways – no one else will

Staying body and mind sharp through menopause

I know it´s a topic that have mixed feelings, some of us dread the menopause approach some of us enjoy it. Yes, you are getting older, and it marks the end of youth and fertility in a way. However it also mark the beginning of something new- a stronger better you!

Hormons – or the lack of them or actually the change of the hormonal mix, will leave you with a different mind and body. Make sure to eat optimal eat natural not precessed food. Sleep for example, always have had an issue with sleep, never ever was a sound sleeper. I sleep for 6,5 to 7 hrs tops, that is for me a good night sleep. But most of all the biggest change for me has been my mind. I have become allot stronger mentally. I do have periods where I have felt a bit lost and not really recognize myself.

It´s time to take care of body and mind and most of all create a balance between them. Stop pressuring yourself to much and let go of negative influences. I seldom listen to the news and by choice keep an positive attitude. Not always easy, I feel a lot of people have a negative attitude form the get go, constantly thinking negative thought, regardless were they are in life.

I have set a couple of goals to maintain and create a better future or a future that I want. I going in to a new phase in life. First of is your mind, are you happy with your life? Is this were you picture your self 10 years ago? If not, what is strategy for removing yourself from your current state?

Second your body, I am currently working on my body, nutrition and exercise, to be able to reach my goal I need to change, change my way of thinking, and that is the hardest part, old habits die hard, especially thinking habits.

Top tips to feel your best

  1. Love yourself
  2. Nutrition – eat clean , minimize sugar intake and eat lot´s of greens and fermented soya based foods as it´s has a positive effect on the estrogen
  3. Exercise – not to hard your body needs to recover, but hard enough to break out a sweat, go up early, light a candle and do yoga, it will keep you flexible, try if for 20 minutes 5 days a week. A great start in the morning.
  4. Sleep – hard one, but if you have trouble sleeping, please make sure to at least eat proper as you brains needs the nutritions
  5. Find your inne purpose, if lost or forgotten
  6. Do fun for filling things – take time to enjoy life

Reflection – body and mind

Body issues – past 40

Wow, where to start? I am strong believer in loving your self and really embrace what life has giving you. We are all beautiful inside and out, you know that already, but still. As a woman, you go through a lot of changes during life. The biggest changes comes often after childbirth, some things are going south, and believe me something are going north.

With estrogen decreasing in your body, changes start happening. Fat deposits moves, you might find your behind become flatter, and if you are blessed with a waist, you might find parts of your behind is actually moving north, ending up around your waist as muffin tops. You are also loosing muscle mass, and with loosing muscle mass comes loose skin as there is no muscle underneath supporting it..

You need to change you exercise routine, you need to opt up the weight lifting to keep your muscle tone, and skip the really long distance runs as this is quite stressful for the body. As you get older your cell turnover is a lot slower, and it takes longer time for the body to recover. If you do HIIT do it no more then 3 times a week and do Yoga for flexibility.

I use Jojoba oil, both for body and face. I like the softness it brings and also that it is very natural, with that said, i use stronger retinal product as well. You need stronger product with aging skin, not only on your face and neck, but also on the rest of your body. Dry scrubbing is very much needed, every other day to get rid of old dull skin, before hitting the shower.

And most of all – Be happy, if you are not happy, make it your goal to be.

Refuse becoming old – embrace aging

As a women, specially in the western part of the world we are constantly bombarded with tips on how to stay young. I feel a bit sad, as there is nothing wrong with aging. It´s actually a gift, with age comes a matureness, an deeper understanding for others, a love for life and general happier view on life. We should be grateful for every morning we wake up, as it is a true miracle. With that said, you do not have to become old just because you are getting older.

I meet people all the time who are saying – I am to old for that, that is not for me, I am an old woman , old man and so on! If you limit yourself to those thoughts – you are old. It´s all in your mind. If you limit your life and loose your sense of curiosity as well as your willingness to try new things – you will become old.

We are seeing a trend in aging women on the catwalk, grey ambassadors (stop coloring their hair) and much more. All of a sudden it´s actually cool to embrace your aging- I love it! Saying this, you still need to keep your self healthy and even more relevant keep active and care for your body and mind in a different way then you did when you were younger. Learn to love yourself in a new way, give your self the respect you deserve and why not try something different?

Refuse getting old – but embrace aging.

Refuse dressing for the fall season- keep the flip flop on😊

Middle age – how should we relate to it?

We women are such powerful beings, I think we underestimate how fantastic we are. We give life, carry life and goes through hormone changes through out our life, if it would happened to a man, it would break him down and probably be consider as an illness.

We of us who has given birth knows what it takes to give life. From morning sickness to pouching out a new human being and all the issues that comes after with breastfeeding and complications with your private parts and depression. Let´s face it, your life, body and mind will never be the same. Still we are assumed to go through it and bump back to life as nothing have happened.

So if you have reached the age were childbirth is no longer an topic as well as small children you have probably entered middle age. Hopefully you are at peace with were you are at and feel comfy in your skin. But if you are like many of us, you have had sort of a wake up, where you might have released you are a bit lost. Who am I, where am I heading?

The good part of reaching middle age is that you usually have more alone time on your hands. Time that you should embrace and love. This is when you have the time to rediscover yourself. You might end up wanting to change completely, trade of your spouse, change your career, change your friend and more.

Men usually goes through a fear of death, all of a sudden they reach an age were they understand that they are actually going to die one day and need to live to the fullest while they can. They might go from coach potatoes to Iron man champions. Some might search the attention from much younger women – just to get an approval that they are still in the game..

Whatever you are going through – embrace it. This is life changing for the better. You have done a great journey so far. You have learned hopefully a lot and have becoming a stronger more confident. Crises or not, I think of it as a turning point, a sort of awakening to get you moving. This is the time to restart yourself. Love it, and give it time. Do something for you! this is your time to rediscover your self again – enjoy it.

Remember you are the master of your ship.

Accepting is the beginning of something new

Accepting is the beginning of something new

Sometimes life plays us tricks, we can not fully understand. And the more we fight it, the more we will get it it back. You have a special call, that you are supposed to follow, if you keep denying it, it will haunt you one way or the other, until You get it. H

I have had a sequence of happenings in my life which have left me in the exact same place I was a couple years ago. For sure the time that passed have left me with a lot more knowledge and a couple of new friends. So nothing is in vain, but still. It’s like life is trying to tell me you are at the wrong place 👉🏻 start listening to your inner voice and choose the right path.

So People, accept necessary changes and move towards your inner freedom ⭐️.

So now after a very turbulent week, I have decided to accept, move on to a new beginning 👉🏻. I will trust in life, and let it guide me to were I am suppose to be.

What a blessing

What a blessing

I remember about 8 years ago when I felt completely out of control. It was a couple of incident that left me completely questioning everything. I was stuck in a black hole, living for everyone else but my self. I was exhausted with 4 children, full time job and I had completely forgotten who I was, my childhood dreams and all the goals I had carried was gone. I was not happy nor sad I was numb and very tired.

During the years that followed I have done my best to changes it, take back the control, as I can only blame my self for loosing it. Fighting against the rest of the world from all of sudden acting different, as well as fighting against my own habits I gotten so used to over the last 10+ more years.

Slowly I began to take control, take control over my thought, finding my dreams, some new and some old. Trying to live up to my own need without feeling guilty which was the hardest part, as I was battle with thoughts of feeling selfish and less caring towards the rest of the people close to me.

Today, many years later I am well om my way, I have found my passion as well as new passions. I have found so many new friends, life is a journey and I am now in it instead of standing by and watching it pass by. So yes, what a blessing to finally having woken up.