I have always been very conscious about my appearance. Not in a frantic way but it has been a part of my overall “me strategy.”.I have maintained the same weight since high school. Even though my body does not look the same as it did then. Giving I have been blessed with 4 children. It’s still the same numbers.
Now that I am older and well let’s face it – things are going south , it’s time for some bigger changes mentally. I am talking about acceptance, with a generous amount of self love.
This together with a new way of approaching everything in life. I am kinder to my self. I have adjusted my way of approaching life. My exercise routine is different- to be honest – less hard core (Iron man) and more soft Yoga 🧘🏼♂️.. as it comes to food – less meat and more veggies. I also practice intermittent fasting , because I strongly believe especially as we age the body needs more time to recover on a cellular level.
And so far so good. I love the way my body feels after I give it the proper care and added attitude – I am perfect the way I am – in a humble fashion😉m
Look around and see what happens in the world with women today . On one side you will find the younger woman becoming more powerful, fearless and with a mind set on winning. This generation is what previous generation have slowly build up and passed on from generation to generation.
On the other side you see the older (mature) women becoming more powerful, fearless with a mind set on winning. I am thankful to be here, to be a part of this change. Slowly we rise and let the older (not refereeing to age) fallen women stay on the ground and forever rest. She has done her part and we are thankful for her walk, but now it´s time for us to stand tall. Beside us walks mature men who sees and encourage our rise, even if it means major changes for them. Their daughter, sisters, wife and coworkers are not the same as their mother and grandmothers once was.
Finally we will be accepted and most of all, respected for what we can bring to the table, that we can be great leaders and role models even for men. That beauty does not only belong to a younger generation woman it actually belongs to all woman in all shapes and forms.
4 years ago I lost my dream job, due to a large reorganization. I had been with the company for over 10 years. So somehow I thought I was safe. It took me a year to land a new position, not that I didn’t want or tried to get one, but It turned out to be more difficult then I initially had thought.
My self esteems hit rock bottom, and that year was awful. I finally manage to land a secondment that lasted for 8 months, a short employment followed in a small company (could not stand it) just in time to be head hunted to a larger company again.
This time was different, I really liked my job, coworkers, and the company. It was great. I had barely started before they started to reorganize. A lot of people was laid off and a 1,5 years later it was my turn AGAIN!
Once again I found my self unemployed, once again I had to go out there again “selling my services”. This time around it felt different, I felt at ease. I decided to put my trust in life and accept the thought that – yes, there is a plan for me too.
And sure enough I have had interviews and meetings on a weekly bases. And One of these meetings really made my day! After the interview was over and we started to walk to the door she stopped and turned to me and said – you know what – you truly have glitter in you!
I loved it. , It felt genuine and heart warming – exactly what I needed.
And as for me, I am starting a new job in a week. (After only a month unemployment) A job where I will use my magic and spread my glitter✨
Micro needling, peels, AHA, BHA, laser, botox, fillers and so much more! where do one start and where does it end?
I grew up during the 70’s and 80’s when sunscreen was a bootle of coconutoil with a maximum protection of 2, No one really knew the danger of the sun until it was a bit too late. I have medium fair skin, and burned quite easy as a child and believe me it shows now.
I m suffering from different pigmentations issues. And I really dislike it, uneven skin tone is not very flattering and yes I am over possessive when it comes to wearing sunscreen today even though I do like to get tanned, it is still painful to see the spots developing as I am getting tanned.
Pigmentation, you can never get rid of it without laser or hard core peeling, something I am not to crazy about.
I did a serie of Fraxel (laser) since I developed melasma during my third pregnancy. The melasma disappeared but I got a darker shade around my mouth, not attractive at all and no matter what number sunscreen I use it shows up the minute the sun is out!
But, I want to stay fresh meaning I am not just letting things go south. I eat right, I exercise trying to loose and tone, (not easy after 40) and use products that suppose to work wonders. Can’t say I see that much of a difference yet, I still have to give it time and as always my skin gets irritated when I try new products.
This is a mix of products I use, I am also in to micro needling something I find benefit my skin in many ways. Will give you a full update after my 5th session. So does anyone out there have experience from really good products that really give results? Please share🙌🏻
Today 70% of all divorces is initiated by women. A change in economical standard have made it possible for women to take care of them self. Below is a list of the most common reason for a divorce and it might be a bit strange that cheating is not top of the list but it is not.
First of all it has to do with communication or actually the lack of it. In the beginning of a relationship we are on our toes most of the time, head over heels in love. We want to share everything and everything we share is looked on with a sort of fluffy shimmer. As the time passes, and you reach a more comfortable stage in the relationship things ease out and you don´t feel the same need of sharing. You now know each other, and are happy and content.
Give it a couple of more years, a couple of children and you might find out that what you once loved about your partner, opinions you shared might end up being things you really dislike. this is were women lack in
Lack of individual identity
So many of us, tend to get tangled in a pleasing mood towards our partners. We are so in love, and want to be together all the time. We forget who we are and become one with our partners. This is not all bad, it´s a natural phase in falling in love. But, it is so important to stay true to your own identity, remember who you are and what make you tick. Many women don´t, and wake up much later in the relationship just to discover that they live their life through their partner and children and totally lost them self.
Lost in roles
lost in being a mom a parent a wife, forgetting that you still are a couple. And remember that you need to take time off, just the 2 of you. It´s easier said then done, but yet so important. If you don´t you will eventually forget what attracted you in the first place, what was the reason to the spark in the beginning?
Seeking the perfect match
One thing that actually strikes me when it comes to some women reason for divorce is their believe that they will find a prince charming right the moment the leave their husband. I am not saying they won´t but I find it quite strange and almost charming that they actually believe there will be a lot better. Maybe you where out of luck the first time around and never had the chance to feel really madly in love, or that passion and lust everyone so well deserve. Then OK, i get it. But otherwise there must be more to a divorce than just urging the madly love and lust part.
My own reflection
Spending time with a lot of women during the years one pattern that has been quite obvious to me is the changes women go through.We have hormones running wild from childhood up to menopause and beyond, throw in a couple of children and a couple of years just focusing on everyone else, women will eventually wake up and question them self – is this it? Now that the children is a bit older and not in such a motherly need anymore, time (that once was a non existing element) is suddenly available Time to think and self reflect.
It´s not as they want a new man, as it is that they need to find them self again, need to get to know their inner spark once again, without distraction from the world around them. This phase is usually something that will change women. From being focused on everyone else the focus goes within.
This is usually not welcomed by her surroundings, who find the changes much less appealing as the women herself. Yes, the women change and become more aware of her own needs and development, and if her partner can not stand beside her while she goes through these changes, time will eventually run out and she will walk out of the marriages before without looking back once.
It’s making me sad to see parts of the world today, or should I say certain men who believe they have the power to control the rest of us. It’s like they are above the rest of the world and everything and everyone in it. Why would anyone in their right mind, with access to wealth and power use it for anything else then doing good in the world?
We get bombarded with bad news all the time. It’s everything from climate crisis to violence and wars. One one hand, we have people fighting for the climate and on the other hand people (men) fighting wars. And in between thees a lot of lost people.
We must all get involved in creating a better future for everyone, not just humans, for everyone and everything on this planet. Female power lays in being humble and caring. Exactly what the world needs today. Now is the time to let women take a giant step forward and becoming a part of ruling the world. No one should rule unless their intention lyes in making changes for the better. What difference does it makes if you are rich and powerful, if the world around you is falling apart?
I am tired of greedy and selfish people (sorry but it´s still most men) who´s only goal is to empower them self with more money, influence and power. I am tired of cleaning up the mess I never created, tired of being scared and worried for the future I have to leave my kids and grandkids. I am raising good kids, I am working hard to contribute and pitch in where I can, all for free, all to contribute to a better world. What do you do?
It´s time for women to take a gigant step forward. It´s time to show the world compassion, time for us to gain the respect we need and deserve. Women are the future generation leaders. I am by no means saying all men are bad – the majority is of-course not, they want the same thing we want. But we still need to remove the once who keeps destroying for rest of us. So let´s us step forward and sit in the front seat and let us guide toward a good and healthy balance.
Are you healthy or not? Do you care or really not? Are you in the game or hopelessly lost? Are you making sure you get the best there is for your body and soul?
Taking care of yourself is the best gift you can ever give yourself. Not only caring about your health but also your mind. Filling it with good thoughts and happy memories. Trigger it with challenges and changes. Give it love every day.
But we all know that life is not always pink and fluffy, it’s sometimes dark or at least grayish. That’s why it’s even more important to overfill yourself with good vibes those days your life feels extra good.
Try at least try to make the best out of every day. If that means sitting around doing absolutely nothing then that is what you should do.
Life passes quickly, fill it with good positive people, educate yourself everyday. Share knowledge to others, be friendly, be curious. Spoil your body and mind every day.