Financially secure=Freedom

Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial independent, regardless of what situation I am currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else. I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live, or personal choice. Regardless were you are in life, some thoughts that you need to consider before you relay on someone else for support.

For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores). This is good for our independence, we also have a very good social benefits that gives us 1 year paid leave and good childcare possibilities. But still, we need to have control over our financial situation. However we do not get a divorce settlements.

I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, ( I have been there myself) save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle, and start out early. Make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, sickness, unemployment, start your own business and much more.

Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver! And being able to help your children financially is such a great gift.

So all you woman and men out there, take care of yourself primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end. And no! It´s never to late nor do you need to feel a shamed of not understanding or finding saving interesting in anyway. It´s usually not.

Be the Queen in your life- take care of yourself in all ways – no one else will

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Lastning relationships In a fast new world 🌎

We live better lives than ever before, better food, better educations. We carry a better overall standard. I am not saying all but a lot of us? And still it seems that we struggle more than ever with mental health and building long lasting relationships with other people. What triggers that?

Is it because we have 24 hours access to a larger world, full of new things and people to explore? Endless of good and meaningless information to take part of, this being the era of information.

Should we “sacrifice” ourself for someone else, or should we stay true to our self no matter what? We know from science that people live longer and are generally happier and healthier in physical relationships, but does that mean only love one partner of the opposite sex (or same for that matter) or could it be a new sort of relationship we’re you have many friends both öff and online and choose a parter for parenting your children? You might even choose one of your many friends to partner up for the parenting part. Is the long lasting relationship and marriage a dying form of art?

Could it be that we do not have time for anyone in our life except ourself? So none or nothing else matters? Or could it be that love today has another meaning than it did 2 decade ago, especially with the independence and liberation of the woman? Do the future hold a different kind of relationship?

Will future generation look back at us and wonder what was wrong with us? Or will they try to understand how we did it in a world were you don’t have time nor patience to waste on problems and problem solving.

In the future, will independence be the way everyone lives? Not being attach to anyone not even your children?

Summer days blues 👉🏻 new beginnings

Well one more summer is coming to its end. Every summer is the same, looking forward to the fall and new possibilities , but not the end of the long beautiful summer nights.. It marks the end of one school year, so in many ways a new beginning.

We are lucky enough to be able to spend a good part of the summer in summer houses down south. I have been able to work from there so I have been quite busy all summer when the rest of the family have been off.

This summer have felt a bit sad in many ways and I wonder what makes it feel this way? A part of growing older, not really being where I want to be in life, and yet see another summer pass. And aslo to the fact that I am not to happy about the cold and dark upcoming season. And I am also going in to my next part in my life 👉🏻menopause. No symptoms other than a skipped period and som molding and feeling bloated

I am truly happy about menopause as it makes me a stronger and more confident, but it will rob me of my youth as it will mark an end of my fertile days. But hey this also marks a new beginning of an older happier me who is looking forward entering a new beginning. I hope you all hade a great summer.

Being a feminine woman regardless

Women are so beautiful, strong, mysterious. We are mothers, carry life and are just fantastic. We should always embrace that! Meaning we should be feminine regardless what. We should be proud of what we have, and what we are and most of all show it.

Many women, believe they must become more manly to receive the respect they deserve, and that might be the case, but why is that? And why do we allow it? You do not need to become more manly just to earn respect. If anything be more feminine!

Own the floor as a pure woman, with all your feminine attributes – be humble, friendly but strong! Show compassion yet let them understand your goal and ambitions regardless of anything.

Be a proud woman! There is nothing more attractive and sensual then a feminine powerful woman

Body issues – past 40

Wow, where to start? I am strong believer in loving your self and really embrace what life has giving you. We are all beautiful inside and out, you know that already, but still. As a woman, you go through a lot of changes during life. The biggest changes comes often after childbirth, some things are going south, and believe me something are going north.

With estrogen decreasing in your body, changes start happening. Fat deposits moves, you might find your behind become flatter, and if you are blessed with a waist, you might find parts of your behind is actually moving north, ending up around your waist as muffin tops. You are also loosing muscle mass, and with loosing muscle mass comes loose skin as there is no muscle underneath supporting it..

You need to change you exercise routine, you need to opt up the weight lifting to keep your muscle tone, and skip the really long distance runs as this is quite stressful for the body. As you get older your cell turnover is a lot slower, and it takes longer time for the body to recover. If you do HIIT do it no more then 3 times a week and do Yoga for flexibility.

I use Jojoba oil, both for body and face. I like the softness it brings and also that it is very natural, with that said, i use stronger retinal product as well. You need stronger product with aging skin, not only on your face and neck, but also on the rest of your body. Dry scrubbing is very much needed, every other day to get rid of old dull skin, before hitting the shower.

And most of all – Be happy, if you are not happy, make it your goal to be.

Refuse becoming old – embrace aging

As a women, specially in the western part of the world we are constantly bombarded with tips on how to stay young. I feel a bit sad, as there is nothing wrong with aging. It´s actually a gift, with age comes a matureness, an deeper understanding for others, a love for life and general happier view on life. We should be grateful for every morning we wake up, as it is a true miracle. With that said, you do not have to become old just because you are getting older.

I meet people all the time who are saying – I am to old for that, that is not for me, I am an old woman , old man and so on! If you limit yourself to those thoughts – you are old. It´s all in your mind. If you limit your life and loose your sense of curiosity as well as your willingness to try new things – you will become old.

We are seeing a trend in aging women on the catwalk, grey ambassadors (stop coloring their hair) and much more. All of a sudden it´s actually cool to embrace your aging- I love it! Saying this, you still need to keep your self healthy and even more relevant keep active and care for your body and mind in a different way then you did when you were younger. Learn to love yourself in a new way, give your self the respect you deserve and why not try something different?

Refuse getting old – but embrace aging.

Refuse dressing for the fall season- keep the flip flop on😊

Middle age – how should we relate to it?

We women are such powerful beings, I think we underestimate how fantastic we are. We give life, carry life and goes through hormone changes through out our life, if it would happened to a man, it would break him down and probably be consider as an illness.

We of us who has given birth knows what it takes to give life. From morning sickness to pouching out a new human being and all the issues that comes after with breastfeeding and complications with your private parts and depression. Let´s face it, your life, body and mind will never be the same. Still we are assumed to go through it and bump back to life as nothing have happened.

So if you have reached the age were childbirth is no longer an topic as well as small children you have probably entered middle age. Hopefully you are at peace with were you are at and feel comfy in your skin. But if you are like many of us, you have had sort of a wake up, where you might have released you are a bit lost. Who am I, where am I heading?

The good part of reaching middle age is that you usually have more alone time on your hands. Time that you should embrace and love. This is when you have the time to rediscover yourself. You might end up wanting to change completely, trade of your spouse, change your career, change your friend and more.

Men usually goes through a fear of death, all of a sudden they reach an age were they understand that they are actually going to die one day and need to live to the fullest while they can. They might go from coach potatoes to Iron man champions. Some might search the attention from much younger women – just to get an approval that they are still in the game..

Whatever you are going through – embrace it. This is life changing for the better. You have done a great journey so far. You have learned hopefully a lot and have becoming a stronger more confident. Crises or not, I think of it as a turning point, a sort of awakening to get you moving. This is the time to restart yourself. Love it, and give it time. Do something for you! this is your time to rediscover your self again – enjoy it.

Remember you are the master of your ship.