Treat your self as you would a new lover

Are you kind in your inner dialogue? Are the words filled with compassion, love and understanding or with harsh, judgmental attitude? Most people would probably lean towards the later. One of my goals this year is to take time and listen, listen to that inner voice.

And based on what I would hear , I would work on being kinder to my self. I mean it’s a relevant question – How exactly am I treating myself? I am glad I choose that to be one of my goals as I came to know this inner voice of mine, and it is not very nice, in fact it is extremely harsh sometimes.

Why is it, that we allow our inner dialogue to be so judgmental? We would never ever talk to someone dear to us the same way we talk to ourself..If anything this (pour inner dialogue) should be the nicest, most heartwarming, undertaking, compassionate of them all, wouldn’t you agree?

It has probably to do with being a woman as well, our constant self judgement is absurd. As women we are judged on the way we look, the way we parent, breast feeding or not, stay a home mom, working mom. Caring to much for the children, not caring enough. As a mother of both girls and boys I see a difference in the way boys act towards us as moms and the way girls act. And sadly enough most of the negative judgment comes from other women. I am not saying all, but you are all out there.

I recently took a quite big step in my career, a role I have worked hard to get. And with that “power” raises a new dilemma. How do I interact with people at work? Not to nice, as people will walk all over me and lack the respect I want and deserve. Not to harsh as they will be less cooperative and make my job even harder. So on top of this!

Here I am listening to my inner voice dealing with all the negative input I feed it, realizing this needs to stop right now! Not one single judgement thought should enter my soul, not one more correcting order! No matter what vibes the surrounding send me, it will not have a chance to touch down in my end zone.

This is me, my soul, my beautiful being- I will love you and care for you always. I will treat you the same way I would a loved one. And to spice it up, send in some curiosity and ask yourself some new questions. What do I like? How can I give my self the best day/night ever? Treat yourself as you would a new found lover😘😘

To grow – a true blessing

Life runs by fast, you need to grab it before it’s to late. So many of us, me included are fast runners. One thing leads to another and before you know it you have a couple of half grown children on their own path to find their truth in life.

As a successful woman, who have a lot of things going right in my life. There are still room for growth. There are things that I am less happy about that I want to change going in to the new decade. It is definitely a mindset thing. And something I need to work on everyday to be successful.

I need time (witch is not on my side right now) To be able to sit back and reflect, let that inner voice have the freedom to talk. To look back on things that did not go my way and choose to see them as a blessing. And figure out what it taught me and why? And most important why I need to learn it? Most of them I figurer out and the lesson kept me moving forward.

And as times flies, the reflection get stronger and clearer and it is the perfect way to readjust the path. Small goals can lead to big achievements. So to all you lost souls, or for you who wants to move towards new improvements , but are not really clear on were you need to go – take time to reflect, listen to your inner voice, that inner whisper will guide you right. And promise to commit to yourself!

Let’s travel together 🌟

A healthy way to age

I am such a believer in body and mind working together. And as a child I was always sick. I now understand that It has to do with me actually being gluten intolerant. It caused me a childhood filled with sickness., eczema and unable to sleep.

My parents didn’t know, Back then they did not understand or even know that all that gluten could actual make you sick. Today, obviously I am gluten free. The bad thing I still struggle with is actually sugar. So 2020 will be the year I take the next step in my health journey. Because one thing I know for certain is If I eat right and exercise I feel so much better, min skin is rash free and spot less and I feel a lot less bloated. Will help me keep a healthy body throughout menopause as well. My mind becomes more clear and I feel happier 😊. I love it.

I believe you can control your world with the help of your thoughts. Think and imagine all the qualities you would like to have, think and become your dream person. Easier said then done, but becoming more aware of what you feed your temple and soul is a good start, and the benefit will definitely be worth it😊

2020 I want more for body and mind. As I am getting older, I need to care for it more by giving it the optimal nutrition, exercise, happiness, love and and care.

Goals for 2020

A new decade – a better version of you!

A new year, a new beginning, a new start. Been there before right? what will you do to make next year extra special? It´s a new decade and a magical one. It´s time for those changes you been thinking about for awhile, not just writing down goals in your journal but actually committing to the goals you set up!

Setting up goals is the easy part – following through is the hard part. And that part (following through) is how you success. So what is the secret? Well one thing that stood our from all those who actually succeed is their ability to believe in their self, regardless of what the external world opinion. If you lack in self esteem work on it.

And as easy as it is to fall in to the path of pleasing others make it a priority to set time for your self and work on yourself. And of course don´t forget your love ones in the process. Set up goals – small goals that will eventually lead to a bigger one, and make one of your goals to follow them trough! And take time to stop and look at how far you have come and celebrate the small steps as well.

Remember to always set health goals, your body is your tempel – worship it!

And – relax and give it time, if you believe in it, it will come to you one way or another!

Happy New Year – Welcome 2020

Winter beauty

Well, I love the winter when it is dark out side and the snow is hanging from the trees. The cold winter days are magical, with the cold fresh air.

Sadly, due to climate changes the winters are not as cold and white as they use to be, they are more wet and damp and super grey. So how do you keep your self looking great – after a rainy bike ride? Well you need a great base ball cap made of fake leather to keep your hair from getting wet and to keep your make up in place. So every morning, this little bugger keeps my hair and make up in place.

So until I let my bike rest for the winter, my cap will join me on my daily rides, to and from work.

And when winter is finally here, I will enjoy it with all the beauty it carries.

Have a great rest of the week!

Winter skin – ageing

My skin has kind of given up. It seems like no moisturizer in the world can deal with my skin right now. Unfortunately I live we’re the sun barely raise during the winter months and even if we do get moist weather “wet and damp” it is no good for my poor skin.

I become extra dry with itchy red spots all over. It is like I am constantly allergic to everything. I definitely fells more at ease during the summer. I believe the vitamin D together with the sun gives the skin all it needs

So how can we deal with the issues? Well going from nice perfumed body lotions to pure jojoba oil. No need to buy the expensive perfume body lotion when all my body is longing for is oil.

Pure oil in such a natural form as possible is what it craves. Even though my skin is really itchy and dry, I still exfoliating almost on a daily base. I exfoliate in the shower and make sure I put on oil straight after the shower when my skin is still damp.

I can see that my skin is not as plump and moist as it use to be, and I need to nurture it in a different way these days. Inside out.

Over all, I need to take care of me in a different way nowadays. Give my self some needed TLC !

What is your skin secret?

Accepting what is – ageing

I have always been very conscious about my appearance. Not in a frantic way but it has been a part of my overall “me strategy.”.I have maintained the same weight since high school. Even though my body does not look the same as it did then. Giving I have been blessed with 4 children. It’s still the same numbers.

Now that I am older and well let’s face it – things are going south , it’s time for some bigger changes mentally. I am talking about acceptance, with a generous amount of self love.

This together with a new way of approaching everything in life. I am kinder to my self. I have adjusted my way of approaching life. My exercise routine is different- to be honest – less hard core (Iron man) and more soft Yoga 🧘🏼‍♂️.. as it comes to food – less meat and more veggies. I also practice intermittent fasting , because I strongly believe especially as we age the body needs more time to recover on a cellular level.

And so far so good. I love the way my body feels after I give it the proper care and added attitude – I am perfect the way I am – in a humble fashion😉m