The price of commitment

Commitment a beautiful word in many ways. Commit to yourself first off . It might sounds like the most natural thing to do, but it is not. Commitment is a way to actually reach your long for-filling goals. Commit and you will eventually reach them. But commitment is and can also be something challenging.

The commitment of being a good parants for an example. How simple it might sound but what a challenging reward it is. Even with healthy children it is hard sometimes. As much I believe in guiding my children through childhood, I strongly believe that my children are sent to teach me things as well. So how do one commit to being a good parent?

The same goes with other relationships, your spouse, how do you commit to a long lasting and happy relationships in a world that is ever changing? As you go through life you face difficulties in many ways, and you change. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago – far from that. So, should I expect my spouse to still be committed to me? Is it fair? Are we obligatet to stay committed even after 50 years together. Well of course not, we all have a choice but the choice is not easy. Do women and men commit differently?

Even the relationship with my parents have changed. What is my commitment to them? I want to be there for them as they get older and even they go through changes. I am stepping in and becoming more as their parent, then their daughter, and as much as I love them, I was not really expecting this. Did I commit to that? I know, I should be thankful that they are still around and alive. And I am forever grateful for them being their when I grew up, but still.

So overall commitment in the right way is good, but maybe we should not put to much effort into all our commitment. And why not rewrite the commitments now and then, just to understand and accept each others changes. Maybe we should just leave it open and commit to life,and nothing more and with life comes changes, lets just to commit to that!

Commit to life

Healed from the inside out

Taking care of the body and mind goes hand in hand, the older I get the more important it gets to really listen in, and you do it through your soul.

A couple of years ago, I did not listen, well that was not really true. I was listening but I refused to pay attention to the signals I was getting and that unfortunately left me with chronic skin issues, mostly related to my skin. I was a pleaser in many ways and was battling with selfempowerment.

I was the nice, kind one. Always flexible and happy to anyone else but myself. Anyway, it led to problems with my skin, real skin problems.

It started out as rash around my eyes which spread to other parts of the body. This was getting really bad to a point were I could barely go out. I went to the doctor who prescribe different ornament that made my skin temporary better for a short awhile. But nothing really helped and it was so depressing. Superficial? maybe but still. So I started to listen in and also experiment with cutting out certain foods, mainly gluten and dairy.

And sure enough things started to get better. Today I am 99% gluten free by choice and my skin is much better. So now I take time to listen in and focus on just nurturing my body with good thoughts, healthy food and couple of NO´s now and then. My skin is still an issue from time to time. But if I eat well, and listen in, my body and mind are in balance and I feel great.

So from now on, I have decided to really be good to my self, by that i mean really eating healthy, what ever that means :)- More vegan, less sugar, less salt,and more meditating, pilates and me time.

Financially secure=Freedom

Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial independent, regardless of what situation I am currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else. I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live, or personal choice. Regardless were you are in life, some thoughts that you need to consider before you relay on someone else for support.

For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores). This is good for our independence, we also have a very good social benefits that gives us 1 year paid leave and good childcare possibilities. But still, we need to have control over our financial situation. However we do not get a divorce settlements.

I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, ( I have been there myself) save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle, and start out early. Make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, sickness, unemployment, start your own business and much more.

Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver! And being able to help your children financially is such a great gift.

So all you woman and men out there, take care of yourself primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end. And no! It´s never to late nor do you need to feel a shamed of not understanding or finding saving interesting in anyway. It´s usually not.

Be the Queen in your life- take care of yourself in all ways – no one else will

Lastning relationships In a fast new world 🌎

We live better lives than ever before, better food, better educations. We carry a better overall standard. I am not saying all but a lot of us? And still it seems that we struggle more than ever with mental health and building long lasting relationships with other people. What triggers that?

Is it because we have 24 hours access to a larger world, full of new things and people to explore? Endless of good and meaningless information to take part of, this being the era of information.

Should we “sacrifice” ourself for someone else, or should we stay true to our self no matter what? We know from science that people live longer and are generally happier and healthier in physical relationships, but does that mean only love one partner of the opposite sex (or same for that matter) or could it be a new sort of relationship we’re you have many friends both öff and online and choose a parter for parenting your children? You might even choose one of your many friends to partner up for the parenting part. Is the long lasting relationship and marriage a dying form of art?

Could it be that we do not have time for anyone in our life except ourself? So none or nothing else matters? Or could it be that love today has another meaning than it did 2 decade ago, especially with the independence and liberation of the woman? Do the future hold a different kind of relationship?

Will future generation look back at us and wonder what was wrong with us? Or will they try to understand how we did it in a world were you don’t have time nor patience to waste on problems and problem solving.

In the future, will independence be the way everyone lives? Not being attach to anyone not even your children?

Staying body and mind sharp through menopause

I know it´s a topic that have mixed feelings, some of us dread the menopause approach some of us enjoy it. Yes, you are getting older, and it marks the end of youth and fertility in a way. However it also mark the beginning of something new- a stronger better you!

Hormons – or the lack of them or actually the change of the hormonal mix, will leave you with a different mind and body. Make sure to eat optimal eat natural not precessed food. Sleep for example, always have had an issue with sleep, never ever was a sound sleeper. I sleep for 6,5 to 7 hrs tops, that is for me a good night sleep. But most of all the biggest change for me has been my mind. I have become allot stronger mentally. I do have periods where I have felt a bit lost and not really recognize myself.

It´s time to take care of body and mind and most of all create a balance between them. Stop pressuring yourself to much and let go of negative influences. I seldom listen to the news and by choice keep an positive attitude. Not always easy, I feel a lot of people have a negative attitude form the get go, constantly thinking negative thought, regardless were they are in life.

I have set a couple of goals to maintain and create a better future or a future that I want. I going in to a new phase in life. First of is your mind, are you happy with your life? Is this were you picture your self 10 years ago? If not, what is strategy for removing yourself from your current state?

Second your body, I am currently working on my body, nutrition and exercise, to be able to reach my goal I need to change, change my way of thinking, and that is the hardest part, old habits die hard, especially thinking habits.

Top tips to feel your best

  1. Love yourself
  2. Nutrition – eat clean , minimize sugar intake and eat lot´s of greens and fermented soya based foods as it´s has a positive effect on the estrogen
  3. Exercise – not to hard your body needs to recover, but hard enough to break out a sweat, go up early, light a candle and do yoga, it will keep you flexible, try if for 20 minutes 5 days a week. A great start in the morning.
  4. Sleep – hard one, but if you have trouble sleeping, please make sure to at least eat proper as you brains needs the nutritions
  5. Find your inne purpose, if lost or forgotten
  6. Do fun for filling things – take time to enjoy life

Reflection – body and mind

21 days health challenge – just do it!

I have set a goal, actually I have a couple of goals but I will invite you to follow one of them – my health plan. I am in no way unhealthy, but I want to make changes inside and out. My plan is to reduce sugar intake to 0 during these 21 days and with that, put in different excersizes that will benefit not only my physical body, but also my mental mindset.

I have a couple of weeks were I can control my schedule and time so why not set mys self up for a test.

Being middle age, and head diving in to menopause I need and want to help my body become the best version possible. As it is not responding the way it use to and even If I love the strength it has giving me through the years it is more sensitive and not really as responsive as it has been. This challenge will also test my mental power. So this is my plan.

For foods, only plant base for these 21 days, I will follow a Dr Gundry Plant Paradox diet. I will stick to a intermitten fasting with a 4 – max 6 hrs eating window. This will let my body heal inside and out.

Plenty of water and green matcha as well as coffee. As my body is low in ferritin (Iron) I need to take iron supplements as well as vitamin C as this will help the body with the Iron and its a great supplement for staying healthy. I will also give my body B-12, Omega 3 and Silica and some natural fermented estrogen. I will list all the supplements along the journey.

Summer days blues 👉🏻 new beginnings

Well one more summer is coming to its end. Every summer is the same, looking forward to the fall and new possibilities , but not the end of the long beautiful summer nights.. It marks the end of one school year, so in many ways a new beginning.

We are lucky enough to be able to spend a good part of the summer in summer houses down south. I have been able to work from there so I have been quite busy all summer when the rest of the family have been off.

This summer have felt a bit sad in many ways and I wonder what makes it feel this way? A part of growing older, not really being where I want to be in life, and yet see another summer pass. And aslo to the fact that I am not to happy about the cold and dark upcoming season. And I am also going in to my next part in my life 👉🏻menopause. No symptoms other than a skipped period and som molding and feeling bloated

I am truly happy about menopause as it makes me a stronger and more confident, but it will rob me of my youth as it will mark an end of my fertile days. But hey this also marks a new beginning of an older happier me who is looking forward entering a new beginning. I hope you all hade a great summer.