The older I get, the stronger I become- Inside. I feel better then I have felt in years and that is because I am being more relaxed to the outside world. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone anymore. I don’t need to say yes, if I don’t want that.
I am not perfect in anyway but I am happy with what I got, what I have accomplished over the years and most of all I am happy to be the person I am today.
So yes, you still need to work on yourself but in the meantime don’t forget to stop and look how far you have come. How wonderful life can be if you give it the right thoughts. Become the person want to become.
Give your self a mission and follow it. You will blossom, I promise. Love yourself and keep feeding yourself with good thoughts.
And yes, work on your physique as well, to keep mind and body in balance ⭐️
What´s happening to women and men around the age of 40? A lot of us are going through what´s called midlife crises. It might not be something you at first relate as a crises, but more of a life change. Once you are there you know, you start question everything around you. Is my job the correct one for me? Is this the body I want? What about friends and most of all what about the relationships I am in? is it the correct one?
I firmly believe it´s a scare of getting older and eventually death. You have reach a milestone where you have accomplish a lot of things, maybe you had your career, there is no a thrill in chasing a better position. You mirror image does not match your outside anymore. You´re no longer your childrens no 1, all of a sudden they have their own agenda. Your partner might go through changes as well and what was once was a solid united WE is more shattered peaces of memories.
Either way something is knocking on that door, so how should you look at it in a sober manner? Understanding that this is a new phase and work yourself though it. Look at all the aspects that pops up and go though them peacefully. Step by step. Start with yourself and try to figure out what it is you want with your career? a career change is perfect now, you are older wiser and still have many more years to give. How about that body? are you giving it the correct amount of exercise, good food? Maybe it´s time for a different exercise routine?STAY YOUNGER FITNESS The last part you should look at is your relationship. Don´t think that a change of partner will bring you happiness. The change is going on inside you, it has nothing to do with your outside world.
Still welcome it, you need to fine tune your life again, and go through it on your own. No one or nothing on the outside world can make the changes for you. You need to do it, and stop calling it crises it´s finding a new you.
I hope 🤞 that you have gone through life with a large share of happiness and some must needed struggles. I see all struggles as a a part of the school of life. And most of all I see it as a sort of wake up call to guide you back to the path- you are meant to walk.
With age comes smartness in the sense of what you can actually contribute to the world 🌎. When you are young, you have a different set of drive and fearlessness, this is the best time to explore that! Hopefully you have tried everything that came your way, and dared to let your fantasies run wild.
As you are getting older a different set of responsibilities emerge, responsibilities mostly towards others. And with that comes limitations of course, but also a lot of love and happiness.
So how do you age smart? Well use your knowledge and spread it to others. You have gain so much wisdom during your life, it’s time to spread it. What stopping you? And with that, you should also live your life with dignity and respect.
Respecting yourself is crucial. Take care of yourself in all ways. You know by now what you enjoy – priorities that. You have earned it. Help others without it being a burden- see what your help actually provides to others. it’s actually proven that helping others maintain your sense of belonging which is such an important health indicator when becoming older.
Body and mind go hand in hand, always remember that and if you treat your body as a temple and your mind as a GOD, you will age smartly . With happiness comes beauty in all ways.
What is your main reason for training? I exercise for a couple of reasons but mainly because my brain loves it, It makes me feel really good. And it´s known that exercise release the “feel good hormones” endorphins. And that super hormone reduces stress as well as reduces your perception of pain. Beside that it helps me maintain a healthy weight as well as keep my body toned.
Most of our time is spent in an office, or at least most of our time is spent sitting down. Add that we usually have a stressful life that adds allot of stiffness to our body. Both mind and body will react to a stressful lifestyle.
And even thoughts can be stressful, not only having a hectic schedule. You might go through a crises or a lifetime change, the last thing on your mind might be going to the gym. But this is the time you should hit the gym.If the gym is to much of a challenge, go for a walk in the forest or a park is to be preferred.
Even children all ages need this as they are a generation who are spending more and more time online and less time outside.
Our brain is the same as it was 40 000 years and back then our body was in constant movement outside- and our brain still needs the outdoor and or body needs the exercise. When possible I will walk or take my bike, seldom you will see me in the car or for that matter on the bus. That way I will get my daily exercise. To keep flexible I add daily Yoga practice 20-30 minutes max. But It is also very important to get your pulse up and sweat, to release toxins.
Commitment a beautiful word in many ways. Commit to yourself first off . It might sounds like the most natural thing to do, but it is not. Commitment is a way to actually reach your long for-filling goals. Commit and you will eventually reach them. But commitment is and can also be something challenging.
The commitment of being a good parants for an example. How simple it might sound but what a challenging reward it is. Even with healthy children it is hard sometimes. As much I believe in guiding my children through childhood, I strongly believe that my children are sent to teach me things as well. So how do one commit to being a good parent?
The same goes with other relationships, your spouse, how do you commit to a long lasting and happy relationships in a world that is ever changing? As you go through life you face difficulties in many ways, and you change. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago – far from that. So, should I expect my spouse to still be committed to me? Is it fair? Are we obligatet to stay committed even after 50 years together. Well of course not, we all have a choice but the choice is not easy. Do women and men commit differently?
Even the relationship with my parents have changed. What is my commitment to them? I want to be there for them as they get older and even they go through changes. I am stepping in and becoming more as their parent, then their daughter, and as much as I love them, I was not really expecting this. Did I commit to that? I know, I should be thankful that they are still around and alive. And I am forever grateful for them being their when I grew up, but still.
So overall commitment in the right way is good, but maybe we should not put to much effort into all our commitment. And why not rewrite the commitments now and then, just to understand and accept each others changes. Maybe we should just leave it open and commit to life,and nothing more and with life comes changes, lets just to commit to that!
Taking care of the body and mind goes hand in hand, the older I get the more important it gets to really listen in, and you do it through your soul.
A couple of years ago, I did not listen, well that was not really true. I was listening but I refused to pay attention to the signals I was getting and that unfortunately left me with chronic skin issues, mostly related to my skin. I was a pleaser in many ways and was battling with selfempowerment.
I was the nice, kind one. Always flexible and happy to anyone else but myself. Anyway, it led to problems with my skin, real skin problems.
It started out as rash around my eyes which spread to other parts of the body. This was getting really bad to a point were I could barely go out. I went to the doctor who prescribe different ornament that made my skin temporary better for a short awhile. But nothing really helped and it was so depressing. Superficial? maybe but still. So I started to listen in and also experiment with cutting out certain foods, mainly gluten and dairy.
And sure enough things started to get better. Today I am 99% gluten free by choice and my skin is much better. So now I take time to listen in and focus on just nurturing my body with good thoughts, healthy food and couple of NO´s now and then. My skin is still an issue from time to time. But if I eat well, and listen in, my body and mind are in balance and I feel great.
So from now on, I have decided to really be good to my self, by that i mean really eating healthy, what ever that means :)- More vegan, less sugar, less salt,and more meditating, pilates and me time.
Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial independent, regardless of what situation I am currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else. I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live, or personal choice. Regardless were you are in life, some thoughts that you need to consider before you relay on someone else for support.
For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores). This is good for our independence, we also have a very good social benefits that gives us 1 year paid leave and good childcare possibilities. But still, we need to have control over our financial situation. However we do not get a divorce settlements.
I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, ( I have been there myself) save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle, and start out early. Make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, sickness, unemployment, start your own business and much more.
Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver! And being able to help your children financially is such a great gift.
So all you woman and men out there, take care of yourself primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end. And no! It´s never to late nor do you need to feel a shamed of not understanding or finding saving interesting in anyway. It´s usually not.
Be the Queen in your life- take care of yourself in all ways – no one else will
We live better lives than ever before, better food, better educations. We carry a better overall standard. I am not saying all but a lot of us? And still it seems that we struggle more than ever with mental health and building long lasting relationships with other people. What triggers that?
Is it because we have 24 hours access to a larger world, full of new things and people to explore? Endless of good and meaningless information to take part of, this being the era of information.
Should we “sacrifice” ourself for someone else, or should we stay true to our self no matter what? We know from science that people live longer and are generally happier and healthier in physical relationships, but does that mean only love one partner of the opposite sex (or same for that matter) or could it be a new sort of relationship we’re you have many friends both öff and online and choose a parter for parenting your children? You might even choose one of your many friends to partner up for the parenting part. Is the long lasting relationship and marriage a dying form of art?
Could it be that we do not have time for anyone in our life except ourself? So none or nothing else matters? Or could it be that love today has another meaning than it did 2 decade ago, especially with the independence and liberation of the woman? Do the future hold a different kind of relationship?
Will future generation look back at us and wonder what was wrong with us? Or will they try to understand how we did it in a world were you don’t have time nor patience to waste on problems and problem solving.
In the future, will independence be the way everyone lives? Not being attach to anyone not even your children?
I know it´s a topic that have mixed feelings, some of us dread the menopause approach some of us enjoy it. Yes, you are getting older, and it marks the end of youth and fertility in a way. However it also mark the beginning of something new- a stronger better you!
Hormons – or the lack of them or actually the change of the hormonal mix, will leave you with a different mind and body. Make sure to eat optimal eat natural not precessed food. Sleep for example, always have had an issue with sleep, never ever was a sound sleeper. I sleep for 6,5 to 7 hrs tops, that is for me a good night sleep. But most of all the biggest change for me has been my mind. I have become allot stronger mentally. I do have periods where I have felt a bit lost and not really recognize myself.
It´s time to take care of body and mind and most of all create a balance between them. Stop pressuring yourself to much and let go of negative influences. I seldom listen to the news and by choice keep an positive attitude. Not always easy, I feel a lot of people have a negative attitude form the get go, constantly thinking negative thought, regardless were they are in life.
I have set a couple of goals to maintain and create a better future or a future that I want. I going in to a new phase in life. First of is your mind, are you happy with your life? Is this were you picture your self 10 years ago? If not, what is strategy for removing yourself from your current state?
Second your body, I am currently working on my body, nutrition and exercise, to be able to reach my goal I need to change, change my way of thinking, and that is the hardest part, old habits die hard, especially thinking habits.
Top tips to feel your best
Nutrition – eat clean , minimize sugar intake and eat lot´s of greens and fermented soya based foods as it´s has a positive effect on the estrogen
Exercise – not to hard your body needs to recover, but hard enough to break out a sweat, go up early, light a candle and do yoga, it will keep you flexible, try if for 20 minutes 5 days a week. A great start in the morning.
Sleep – hard one, but if you have trouble sleeping, please make sure to at least eat proper as you brains needs the nutritions
Find your inne purpose, if lost or forgotten
Do fun for filling things – take time to enjoy life
I have set a goal, actually I have a couple of goals but I will invite you to follow one of them – my health plan. I am in no way unhealthy, but I want to make changes inside and out. My plan is to reduce sugar intake to 0 during these 21 days and with that, put in different excersizes that will benefit not only my physical body, but also my mental mindset.
I have a couple of weeks were I can control my schedule and time so why not set mys self up for a test.
Being middle age, and head diving in to menopause I need and want to help my body become the best version possible. As it is not responding the way it use to and even If I love the strength it has giving me through the years it is more sensitive and not really as responsive as it has been. This challenge will also test my mental power. So this is my plan.
For foods, only plant base for these 21 days, I will follow a Dr Gundry Plant Paradox diet. I will stick to a intermitten fasting with a 4 – max 6 hrs eating window. This will let my body heal inside and out.
Plenty of water and green matcha as well as coffee. As my body is low in ferritin (Iron) I need to take iron supplements as well as vitamin C as this will help the body with the Iron and its a great supplement for staying healthy. I will also give my body B-12, Omega 3 and Silica and some natural fermented estrogen. I will list all the supplements along the journey.
Well one more summer is coming to its end. Every summer is the same, looking forward to the fall and new possibilities , but not the end of the long beautiful summer nights.. It marks the end of one school year, so in many ways a new beginning.
We are lucky enough to be able to spend a good part of the summer in summer houses down south. I have been able to work from there so I have been quite busy all summer when the rest of the family have been off.
This summer have felt a bit sad in many ways and I wonder what makes it feel this way? A part of growing older, not really being where I want to be in life, and yet see another summer pass. And aslo to the fact that I am not to happy about the cold and dark upcoming season. And I am also going in to my next part in my life 👉🏻menopause. No symptoms other than a skipped period and som molding and feeling bloated
I am truly happy about menopause as it makes me a stronger and more confident, but it will rob me of my youth as it will mark an end of my fertile days. But hey this also marks a new beginning of an older happier me who is looking forward entering a new beginning. I hope you all hade a great summer.
Women are so beautiful, strong, mysterious. We are mothers, carry life and are just fantastic. We should always embrace that! Meaning we should be feminine regardless what. We should be proud of what we have, and what we are and most of all show it.
Many women, believe they must become more manly to receive the respect they deserve, and that might be the case, but why is that? And why do we allow it? You do not need to become more manly just to earn respect. If anything be more feminine!
Own the floor as a pure woman, with all your feminine attributes – be humble, friendly but strong! Show compassion yet let them understand your goal and ambitions regardless of anything.
Be a proud woman! There is nothing more attractive and sensual then a feminine powerful woman