Advance skincare after 40

Micro needling, peels, AHA, BHA, laser, botox, fillers and so much more! where do one start and where does it end?

I grew up during the 70’s and 80’s when sunscreen was a bootle of coconutoil with a maximum protection of 2, No one really knew the danger of the sun until it was a bit too late. I have medium fair skin, and burned quite easy as a child and believe me it shows now.

I m suffering from different pigmentations issues. And I really dislike it, uneven skin tone is not very flattering and yes I am over possessive when it comes to wearing sunscreen today even though I do like to get tanned, it is still painful to see the spots developing as I am getting tanned.

Pigmentation, you can never get rid of it without laser or hard core peeling, something I am not to crazy about.

I did a serie of Fraxel (laser) since I developed melasma during my third pregnancy. The melasma disappeared but I got a darker shade around my mouth, not attractive at all and no matter what number sunscreen I use it shows up the minute the sun is out!

But, I want to stay fresh meaning I am not just letting things go south. I eat right, I exercise trying to loose and tone, (not easy after 40) and use products that suppose to work wonders. Can’t say I see that much of a difference yet, I still have to give it time and as always my skin gets irritated when I try new products.

This is a mix of products I use, I am also in to micro needling something I find benefit my skin in many ways. Will give you a full update after my 5th session. So does anyone out there have experience from really good products that really give results? Please share🙌🏻

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Womens reson for divorce

Today 70% of all divorces is initiated by women. A change in economical standard have made it possible for women to take care of them self. Below is a list of the most common reason for a divorce and it might be a bit strange that cheating is not top of the list but it is not.

Communication

First of all it has to do with communication or actually the lack of it. In the beginning of a relationship we are on our toes most of the time, head over heels in love. We want to share everything and everything we share is looked on with a sort of fluffy shimmer. As the time passes, and you reach a more comfortable stage in the relationship things ease out and you don´t feel the same need of sharing. You now know each other, and are happy and content.

Give it a couple of more years, a couple of children and you might find out that what you once loved about your partner, opinions you shared might end up being things you really dislike. this is were women lack in

Lack of individual identity

So many of us, tend to get tangled in a pleasing mood towards our partners. We are so in love, and want to be together all the time. We forget who we are and become one with our partners. This is not all bad, it´s a natural phase in falling in love. But, it is so important to stay true to your own identity, remember who you are and what make you tick. Many women don´t, and wake up much later in the relationship just to discover that they live their life through their partner and children and totally lost them self.

Lost in roles

lost in being a mom a parent a wife, forgetting that you still are a couple. And remember that you need to take time off, just the 2 of you. It´s easier said then done, but yet so important. If you don´t you will eventually forget what attracted you in the first place, what was the reason to the spark in the beginning?

Seeking the perfect match

One thing that actually strikes me when it comes to some women reason for divorce is their believe that they will find a prince charming right the moment the leave their husband. I am not saying they won´t but I find it quite strange and almost charming that they actually believe there will be a lot better. Maybe you where out of luck the first time around and never had the chance to feel really madly in love, or that passion and lust everyone so well deserve. Then OK, i get it. But otherwise there must be more to a divorce than just urging the madly love and lust part.

My own reflection

Spending time with a lot of women during the years one pattern that has been quite obvious to me is the changes women go through.We have hormones running wild from childhood up to menopause and beyond, throw in a couple of children and a couple of years just focusing on everyone else, women will eventually wake up and question them self – is this it? Now that the children is a bit older and not in such a motherly need anymore, time (that once was a non existing element) is suddenly available Time to think and self reflect.

It´s not as they want a new man, as it is that they need to find them self again, need to get to know their inner spark once again, without distraction from the world around them. This phase is usually something that will change women. From being focused on everyone else the focus goes within.

This is usually not welcomed by her surroundings, who find the changes much less appealing as the women herself. Yes, the women change and become more aware of her own needs and development, and if her partner can not stand beside her while she goes through these changes, time will eventually run out and she will walk out of the marriages before without looking back once.

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The power of women

It’s making me sad to see parts of the world today, or should I say certain men who believe they have the power to control the rest of us. It’s like they are above the rest of the world and everything and everyone in it. Why would anyone in their right mind, with access to wealth and power use it for anything else then doing good in the world?

We get bombarded with bad news all the time. It’s everything from climate crisis to violence and wars. One one hand, we have people fighting for the climate and on the other hand people (men) fighting wars. And in between thees a lot of lost people.

We must all get involved in creating a better future for everyone, not just humans, for everyone and everything on this planet. Female power lays in being humble and caring. Exactly what the world needs today. Now is the time to let women take a giant step forward and becoming a part of ruling the world. No one should rule unless their intention lyes in making changes for the better. What difference does it makes if you are rich and powerful, if the world around you is falling apart?

I am tired of greedy and selfish people (sorry but it´s still most men) who´s only goal is to empower them self with more money, influence and power. I am tired of cleaning up the mess I never created, tired of being scared and worried for the future I have to leave my kids and grandkids. I am raising good kids, I am working hard to contribute and pitch in where I can, all for free, all to contribute to a better world. What do you do?

It´s time for women to take a gigant step forward. It´s time to show the world compassion, time for us to gain the respect we need and deserve. Women are the future generation leaders. I am by no means saying all men are bad – the majority is of-course not, they want the same thing we want. But we still need to remove the once who keeps destroying for rest of us. So let´s us step forward and sit in the front seat and let us guide toward a good and healthy balance.

The future needs it!

Adding years to a better you

Are you healthy or not? Do you care or really not? Are you in the game or hopelessly lost? Are you making sure you get the best there is for your body and soul?

Taking care of yourself is the best gift you can ever give yourself. Not only caring about your health but also your mind. Filling it with good thoughts and happy memories. Trigger it with challenges and changes. Give it love every day.

But we all know that life is not always pink and fluffy, it’s sometimes dark or at least grayish. That’s why it’s even more important to overfill yourself with good vibes those days your life feels extra good.

Try at least try to make the best out of every day. If that means sitting around doing absolutely nothing then that is what you should do.

Life passes quickly, fill it with good positive people, educate yourself everyday. Share knowledge to others, be friendly, be curious. Spoil your body and mind every day.

I promise it will add years to your life.

Staying healthy and look amazing past 40😉

Hi you all! I have always since I can remember been active in sports of some kind. I am truly happy for that as that has helped me in maintaining a good normal weight.

However growing up during the 70-80ies the food choices was not in my or anyone’s favor. I blame my constant battle with illnesses and eczema’s to milk and gluten. It was not until I turned 30 I would really starting to enjoy salads and good nutrition foods.

And with that I mean most plant based, not completely vegan however I could probably do that if I didn’t have to make sure my children got feed properly😊

Becoming older I have noticed that my body is more sensitive then it use to be, and it has all to do with, what I eat. I have tried going Keto with meat and dairy and even if the diet itself works I do not like the way my body feels. I fell stuffed and not fresh at all. My skin needs tons of leafy greens, good avocados, healthy and fresh organic greens.

The good part of Keto is that you don’t feel hungry 😋, so I am made a change and made it more green to fill it with “green” fats instead. With green fats means nuts and avocados and different oils.

Within a week of quitting sugar and restrict my diet to a more healthy Keto I can clearly see a difference in my skin and body. I look a lot healthier, as I had been on mountain hike.

So to give my body the best tools for aging the best way possible I will stay away from sugar, eat during a 6 hrs eating window, enjoy red wine once in awhile and stock up on those must to have vitamins- C, Zink, Magnesium, and different sets av Vitamin B’s, all good for your cells turnover which will give your skin a glow.

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What is your whisper? as a woman?

As a modern woman, I enjoy becoming older in many ways, most because I see a clear difference in the way women are able to bloom the way they are suppose to. I strongly believe that we all have a cal,l a purpose, a meaning. You might not know what it is, but sooner or later you will find that inner whisper.

The best part of growing older is that you are more in tune with your self. You have been through hardships and pains, happy places as well as sad. These hardships have shaped you to the person you are today. It can be good and of course bad. But you and only you have the power to change if you want to. Is it your time now to become who you want to become. Listen in to that voice to that inner whisper, what is it telling you?

I have had the privilege to be surrounded by some strong women, but also some that that are a bit lost. I was also a bit lost, I think we all are from time to time, it all comes down to believing in yourself and trusting that inner whisper. Looking at my daughters I feel so proud, they are so strong and smart and fully aware of their capabilities, as many of the young woman out there today. We can thank older women who has walk the path before us, who has struggled and won, who have raised strong and warm sons and daughters who are today the parent of these strong daughters and also sons.

So all you out there, take time to listen in to your inner voice. The world need your service in one way or another, regardless of what your surrounding tells you.

Chasing youth

Is it finally OK to become older if you are a woman? or do older women become invisible? I undertand the biology behind it, older women cannot reproduce anymore and become less interesting in because of that, but what else is there? There must be more to the story?

In my eyes these women are the strongest people walking on this earth. They have been through so much and have developed in to such strong individuals. Not only have they been through all sorts of hormonal changes, they have been project leaders taking care of children, husbands and their home and maybe she has even managed to squeeze in a career as well.

After all she has been through she should be honored and worshiped. So what is it that makes aging difficult for women? Why do a we continue chasing youth? Would we chase it the same way if women past 50 where looked upp on as marvelous creators? If they where able to bloom fully without dreading being tradeoff for a younger model?

However I do see a different trend approaching a trend where older women finally are accepted the same way older men are. ‘I am unsure if men fancy the trend as much as we women do. See all these beauties in a full set of grey hair, models working actively way up in their 60-70.

So does it mean that we can finally stop chasing youth? that we can finally relax and become true heroes way up in our 70ties? And don´t forget that beauty is only skin deep, the most beautiful thing is the person inside – all that fantastic knowledge and wisdom she have gained during all those years.

Stronger!

The older I get, the stronger I become- Inside. I feel better then I have felt in years and that is because I am being more relaxed to the outside world. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone anymore. I don’t need to say yes, if I don’t want that.

I am not perfect in anyway but I am happy with what I got, what I have accomplished over the years and most of all I am happy to be the person I am today.

So yes, you still need to work on yourself but in the meantime don’t forget to stop and look how far you have come. How wonderful life can be if you give it the right thoughts. Become the person want to become.

Give your self a mission and follow it. You will blossom, I promise. Love yourself and keep feeding yourself with good thoughts.

And yes, work on your physique as well, to keep mind and body in balance ⭐️

Midlife crises for a new you

What´s happening to women and men around the age of 40? A lot of us are going through what´s called midlife crises. It might not be something you at first relate as a crises, but more of a life change. Once you are there you know, you start question everything around you. Is my job the correct one for me? Is this the body I want? What about friends and most of all what about the relationships I am in? is it the correct one?

I firmly believe it´s a scare of getting older and eventually death. You have reach a milestone where you have accomplish a lot of things, maybe you had your career, there is no a thrill in chasing a better position. You mirror image does not match your outside anymore. You´re no longer your childrens no 1, all of a sudden they have their own agenda. Your partner might go through changes as well and what was once was a solid united WE is more shattered peaces of memories.

Either way something is knocking on that door, so how should you look at it in a sober manner? Understanding that this is a new phase and work yourself though it. Look at all the aspects that pops up and go though them peacefully. Step by step. Start with yourself and try to figure out what it is you want with your career? a career change is perfect now, you are older wiser and still have many more years to give. How about that body? are you giving it the correct amount of exercise, good food? Maybe it´s time for a different exercise routine?STAY YOUNGER FITNESS The last part you should look at is your relationship. Don´t think that a change of partner will bring you happiness. The change is going on inside you, it has nothing to do with your outside world.

Still welcome it, you need to fine tune your life again, and go through it on your own. No one or nothing on the outside world can make the changes for you. You need to do it, and stop calling it crises it´s finding a new you.

Super smart aging

I hope 🤞 that you have gone through life with a large share of happiness and some must needed struggles. I see all struggles as a a part of the school of life. And most of all I see it as a sort of wake up call to guide you back to the path- you are meant to walk.

With age comes smartness in the sense of what you can actually contribute to the world 🌎. When you are young, you have a different set of drive and fearlessness, this is the best time to explore that! Hopefully you have tried everything that came your way, and dared to let your fantasies run wild.

As you are getting older a different set of responsibilities emerge, responsibilities mostly towards others. And with that comes limitations of course, but also a lot of love and happiness.

So how do you age smart? Well use your knowledge and spread it to others. You have gain so much wisdom during your life, it’s time to spread it. What stopping you? And with that, you should also live your life with dignity and respect.

Respecting yourself is crucial. Take care of yourself in all ways. You know by now what you enjoy – priorities that. You have earned it. Help others without it being a burden- see what your help actually provides to others. it’s actually proven that helping others maintain your sense of belonging which is such an important health indicator when becoming older.

Body and mind go hand in hand, always remember that and if you treat your body as a temple and your mind as a GOD, you will age smartly . With happiness comes beauty in all ways.

Why exercise?

What is your main reason for training? I exercise for a couple of reasons but mainly because my brain loves it, It makes me feel really good. And it´s known that exercise release the “feel good hormones” endorphins. And that super hormone reduces stress as well as reduces your perception of pain. Beside that it helps me maintain a healthy weight as well as keep my body toned.

Most of our time is spent in an office, or at least most of our time is spent sitting down. Add that we usually have a stressful life that adds allot of stiffness to our body. Both mind and body will react to a stressful lifestyle.

And even thoughts can be stressful, not only having a hectic schedule. You might go through a crises or a lifetime change, the last thing on your mind might be going to the gym. But this is the time you should hit the gym.If the gym is to much of a challenge, go for a walk in the forest or a park is to be preferred.

Even children all ages need this as they are a generation who are spending more and more time online and less time outside.

Our brain is the same as it was 40 000 years and back then our body was in constant movement outside- and our brain still needs the outdoor and or body needs the exercise. When possible I will walk or take my bike, seldom you will see me in the car or for that matter on the bus. That way I will get my daily exercise. To keep flexible I add daily Yoga practice 20-30 minutes max. But It is also very important to get your pulse up and sweat, to release toxins.

The price of commitment

Commitment a beautiful word in many ways. Commit to yourself first off . It might sounds like the most natural thing to do, but it is not. Commitment is a way to actually reach your long for-filling goals. Commit and you will eventually reach them. But commitment is and can also be something challenging.

The commitment of being a good parants for an example. How simple it might sound but what a challenging reward it is. Even with healthy children it is hard sometimes. As much I believe in guiding my children through childhood, I strongly believe that my children are sent to teach me things as well. So how do one commit to being a good parent?

The same goes with other relationships, your spouse, how do you commit to a long lasting and happy relationships in a world that is ever changing? As you go through life you face difficulties in many ways, and you change. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago – far from that. So, should I expect my spouse to still be committed to me? Is it fair? Are we obligatet to stay committed even after 50 years together. Well of course not, we all have a choice but the choice is not easy. Do women and men commit differently?

Even the relationship with my parents have changed. What is my commitment to them? I want to be there for them as they get older and even they go through changes. I am stepping in and becoming more as their parent, then their daughter, and as much as I love them, I was not really expecting this. Did I commit to that? I know, I should be thankful that they are still around and alive. And I am forever grateful for them being their when I grew up, but still.

So overall commitment in the right way is good, but maybe we should not put to much effort into all our commitment. And why not rewrite the commitments now and then, just to understand and accept each others changes. Maybe we should just leave it open and commit to life,and nothing more and with life comes changes, lets just to commit to that!

Commit to life