It hit me like a brick wall the other day when spending some quality time with a very close friend of mine. As a woman you are aiming most of your life to be – presentable.
Your life is not owned by you, it’s owned by everyone else but you. And your focus is being presentable for them. As a young girl, most of us are here to please and serve, it comes natural to be the caregivers. Even in role play. while young boys are continuing playing the same games as they always do the girl are there caring for others.
Moving on starting school, boys are still giving more time in the classroom acting out and being listen to, as they are demanding their space from the get go! Girls are still just being presentable.
Moving up to university girls are getting the better grades, studying harder with minimal fuss, still very few collages professors are well paid women.
Landing their first job, they are faced with lesser pay for equal job usually preforming better then the men. Woman are still less listened to, and need to lean and demand their place, are still being questioned and judged 👉🏻 are they being presentable enough?
Woman preforms sports on as high level as the men but can rarely make a living of it, nor does their team draw as big crowds.
As they become mothers they become less attractive in the job market. As they become older and they become less presentable, and their value drops even more.
So all you girls out there all you warriors, young athletes, older women 👉🏻 stop being presentable.
I cannot stress enough that I am very blessed in many areas, I have 4 beautiful children and my health intact. I have wonderful friends, a good family man.
I work hard to keep my life in balance. I enjoy being involved in my children’s life, staying fit which it’s a struggle for sure as the body is living it’s own life those days😏.
I have during the past years really been through a self exploring journey, yes it might be selfish but a absolute must, as I was literally dying inside. These years been up and down, but mostly lost.
I see so many women my own age going through the same thing and I understand with children and becoming mother your life and focus changes completely. You tend to give up everything that meant something to you earlier in life for all the right reason of-course 👉🏻 you need to focus on your children.
However I am strong believer in following your inner glow, and until you fully do that you will not feel complete- because the WORLD needs it, It’s your purpose. For some it might to be a wife and care for your children and husband, for others being a yoga instructor. Whatever the call is, when you find it, you will know. For me it is working with women in all areas, strengthen them. I want to assist them on their journey, whatever that might be.
My struggle is getting it through the filter at home. I keep going back to my old habits of thinking. I am only blaming myself, no one ☝🏻 else to blame. I keep fine turning all the time, and that is probably necessary to keep me focused and on track. However it’s frustrating, I want to move faster, but feel like I am stuck. I know in my heart what to do, to be able to bloom fully, it will hurt, and it will be a challenge but soo worth it in the end! I will keep you posted.
Such a nice, yet a bit scary thing. It seems like yesterday when I was barely 21, living my dream. So very insecure, but still very happy.
Today 25+ years I feel more secure but a bit sad that I didn’t know and trust my self better. That I didn’t give it my all.
All I had back then was myself. Now I am blessed with beautiful children, but little time for my self. Regrets I had a few, to few to mention, but one is for sure – go out there and try, give it your best, and have fun along the way. Life is to shorts for regrets and not to make mistakes⭐️
I remember about 8 years ago when I felt completely out of control. It was a couple of incident that left me completely questioning everything. I was stuck in a black hole, living for everyone else but my self. I was exhausted with 4 children, full time job and I had completely forgotten who I was, my childhood dreams and all the goals I had carried was gone. I was not happy nor sad I was numb and very tired.
During the years that followed I have done my best to changes it, take back the control, as I can only blame my self for loosing it. Fighting against the rest of the world from all of sudden acting different, as well as fighting against my own habits I gotten so used to over the last 10+ more years.
Slowly I began to take control, take control over my thought, finding my dreams, some new and some old. Trying to live up to my own need without feeling guilty which was the hardest part, as I was battle with thoughts of feeling selfish and less caring towards the rest of the people close to me.
Today, many years later I am well om my way, I have found my passion as well as new passions. I have found so many new friends, life is a journey and I am now in it instead of standing by and watching it pass by. So yes, what a blessing to finally having woken up.
I am sort of mixed when it comes to ageing, on one hand I am so greatful and proud for everything I have created. I feel blessed that I have actually raised 2 adult children and 2 more are on their way. I feel at ease and very self secured and happy. But, I would lie if I said I love my body and what is happening to it. I am happy that I am able to stay healthy, however I was lucky to get good genes, however I am constantly working on it with exercise and healthy food.
The good thing is that finally we are getting more and more accepted, and why should we not? You´re life is not over just because you hit 35, if something this is the time to enjoy and love that you´re first 35 have passed.
But the society is slowly accepting an aging woman, finally. I can see that “going grey” is kind of trendy and that also makes up for feeling better about aging, just imagen we have our spot on this earth for nearly 100 years, why should we not embrace the last 60-70 as much as the first 30-40?
Lets live life, who knows this year I might decide to let it all go and go grey as these beautiful powerful woman.
I have always been sporty only a few times in my live has actually called for a period without any sort of movement. Now I can see the benefits of that in the gym. Coming across woman trying to get it right at an older stage, and sorry to say but it’s not working out that well.
Your body’s muscle memory helps you keeping fit even at in older age even if you aren’t working out that much. And I can honestly say that I am more fit than most 20 somethings.
So I am happy that I always took the time to invest in my own body, I was very bad at dieting but rarely skipped a practice.
I love my strong body, I come to love my curves as well and I am approaching and older version of me in the best shape ever!
I feel better then I have for a very long time, finally got rid of the eczema’s due to numerous of things, but most of all one ornaments prescribed by my doctor. For the rest I must say change of diet, collagen, overall health.
I have a plan that I am confident in following, both for my soul and my body as we are one! I took awhile to get there and I am still not sure where I will end up, but I am sure it will be really good. Just have to stick with it. And move on all the time. And listen to your inner voice not someone else’s
I am quite tried of self medication. All my life I have had problems with allergies. All the pictures from my childhood are filled with happy rash filled faces. I was always sick, hade numerous of ear infections every year. I did not sleep well at all. When I got a bit older, my ear infections moved towards my throat that left me with constant tonsillitis.
This resultated in me being on penicillin constantly, after a couple of years eating penicillin, my body started to become immune regardless of strength. My doctor then decided to schedule me for a tonsil removal, that turned out to be a life saver. Said and done that following year at the age of 15 was the fist year in my life that I did not fall ill. Looking back I see that my childhood was a blurr, I have hard time remembering places we been to, people we use to hang out with and old friends. School was not a good place for me since I had a hard time just understanding and always home sick.
Not until my 4th child was diagnosed with Gluten intolerans and the doctor said that it is most likely inherited I knew It was from me. I can not blame it on my parents as they did not know, but all my life have been a struggle with different body issues and it makes me mad. Because this was caused by the food industry alone, no one else is to blame. I want my life back, I want to see pictures of a child who is not sick and filled with eczemas. I want to bee the child who did not miss school because of sickness. Today, I still have issues but it comes and goes and if I follow a strikt non-inflammatory diet I am fine. However this really makes me mad. I know have to plan and eat a non inflammatory diet, don´t get me wrong, I love living a healthy lifestyle and I would choose that regardless, but the food have made me sick all my life.
Well, not a favorit subject for sure but so important to talk about and understand. I always wanted to be financial in-depended, regardless of what situation I was currently in, from being a singel mom to being married. For me it is a sense of self security, not need to be relying on someone else.
I do understand that situations are different depending on where in the world you live. For me who lives in the Northern part of Europe, we are very focused on being equal, this is both good and bad. Women working as much as our men (well more, since we are still taking care of most of the household shores).
I can’t stress the importance of being financial stable, save as much as you possible can, without it being a struggle. You still need to live once in awhile. But make it a part of a monthly goal to save as much as possible. I think as part of us woman breaking us free from being depended is to have our own financial security and that part starts with you. Even if you are a stay at home mom request some money “no asking money” to make your self secure. As much as we want and hope that our life will stay the same throughout our life it will not. Anything can happen, divorce, death, unemployment.
Building up a financial security will aslo lead you to feeling more secure and in the end happier. I woke up a bit late, but have now released the importance of this. So I have to save even more than if I had started earlier, I have made it in to one of my mission to be a great saver!
So all you woman out there, take care of your self primarily, and you will be able to give more to others in the end.
The older I get the more I love my life, I wish I would love to feel like this when I was younger. But I guess there is a meaning to why I am standing where I am And I had to go through the hardship to be where I am today, a place where I can truly explore the true me.
I needed to spend years of wondering what is wrong with me and the way I am, what is wrong with the world? Eventually after punishing myself for years trying to fit in and eventually waking up and facing the truth. This is not me, this is not the way I should be or act. I need to stay true to myself, I can not be someone I am not. I need to be me, and now a couple of years later I am still taking back what was lost when I was commit to fit in, now I am being true to my self and loving myself first!