Are you healthy or not? Do you care or really not? Are you in the game or hopelessly lost? Are you making sure you get the best there is for your body and soul?
Taking care of yourself is the best gift you can ever give yourself. Not only caring about your health but also your mind. Filling it with good thoughts and happy memories. Trigger it with challenges and changes. Give it love every day.
But we all know that life is not always pink and fluffy, it’s sometimes dark or at least grayish. That’s why it’s even more important to overfill yourself with good vibes those days your life feels extra good.
Try at least try to make the best out of every day. If that means sitting around doing absolutely nothing then that is what you should do.
Life passes quickly, fill it with good positive people, educate yourself everyday. Share knowledge to others, be friendly, be curious. Spoil your body and mind every day.
I hope 🤞 that you have gone through life with a large share of happiness and some must needed struggles. I see all struggles as a a part of the school of life. And most of all I see it as a sort of wake up call to guide you back to the path- you are meant to walk.
With age comes smartness in the sense of what you can actually contribute to the world 🌎. When you are young, you have a different set of drive and fearlessness, this is the best time to explore that! Hopefully you have tried everything that came your way, and dared to let your fantasies run wild.
As you are getting older a different set of responsibilities emerge, responsibilities mostly towards others. And with that comes limitations of course, but also a lot of love and happiness.
So how do you age smart? Well use your knowledge and spread it to others. You have gain so much wisdom during your life, it’s time to spread it. What stopping you? And with that, you should also live your life with dignity and respect.
Respecting yourself is crucial. Take care of yourself in all ways. You know by now what you enjoy – priorities that. You have earned it. Help others without it being a burden- see what your help actually provides to others. it’s actually proven that helping others maintain your sense of belonging which is such an important health indicator when becoming older.
Body and mind go hand in hand, always remember that and if you treat your body as a temple and your mind as a GOD, you will age smartly . With happiness comes beauty in all ways.
Taking care of the body and mind goes hand in hand, the older I get the more important it gets to really listen in, and you do it through your soul.
A couple of years ago, I did not listen, well that was not really true. I was listening but I refused to pay attention to the signals I was getting and that unfortunately left me with chronic skin issues, mostly related to my skin. I was a pleaser in many ways and was battling with selfempowerment.
I was the nice, kind one. Always flexible and happy to anyone else but myself. Anyway, it led to problems with my skin, real skin problems.
It started out as rash around my eyes which spread to other parts of the body. This was getting really bad to a point were I could barely go out. I went to the doctor who prescribe different ornament that made my skin temporary better for a short awhile. But nothing really helped and it was so depressing. Superficial? maybe but still. So I started to listen in and also experiment with cutting out certain foods, mainly gluten and dairy.
And sure enough things started to get better. Today I am 99% gluten free by choice and my skin is much better. So now I take time to listen in and focus on just nurturing my body with good thoughts, healthy food and couple of NO´s now and then. My skin is still an issue from time to time. But if I eat well, and listen in, my body and mind are in balance and I feel great.
So from now on, I have decided to really be good to my self, by that i mean really eating healthy, what ever that means :)- More vegan, less sugar, less salt,and more meditating, pilates and me time.
I know it´s a topic that have mixed feelings, some of us dread the menopause approach some of us enjoy it. Yes, you are getting older, and it marks the end of youth and fertility in a way. However it also mark the beginning of something new- a stronger better you!
Hormons – or the lack of them or actually the change of the hormonal mix, will leave you with a different mind and body. Make sure to eat optimal eat natural not precessed food. Sleep for example, always have had an issue with sleep, never ever was a sound sleeper. I sleep for 6,5 to 7 hrs tops, that is for me a good night sleep. But most of all the biggest change for me has been my mind. I have become allot stronger mentally. I do have periods where I have felt a bit lost and not really recognize myself.
It´s time to take care of body and mind and most of all create a balance between them. Stop pressuring yourself to much and let go of negative influences. I seldom listen to the news and by choice keep an positive attitude. Not always easy, I feel a lot of people have a negative attitude form the get go, constantly thinking negative thought, regardless were they are in life.
I have set a couple of goals to maintain and create a better future or a future that I want. I going in to a new phase in life. First of is your mind, are you happy with your life? Is this were you picture your self 10 years ago? If not, what is strategy for removing yourself from your current state?
Second your body, I am currently working on my body, nutrition and exercise, to be able to reach my goal I need to change, change my way of thinking, and that is the hardest part, old habits die hard, especially thinking habits.
Top tips to feel your best
Nutrition – eat clean , minimize sugar intake and eat lot´s of greens and fermented soya based foods as it´s has a positive effect on the estrogen
Exercise – not to hard your body needs to recover, but hard enough to break out a sweat, go up early, light a candle and do yoga, it will keep you flexible, try if for 20 minutes 5 days a week. A great start in the morning.
Sleep – hard one, but if you have trouble sleeping, please make sure to at least eat proper as you brains needs the nutritions
Find your inne purpose, if lost or forgotten
Do fun for filling things – take time to enjoy life
We women are such powerful beings, I think we underestimate how fantastic we are. We give life, carry life and goes through hormone changes through out our life, if it would happened to a man, it would break him down and probably be consider as an illness.
We of us who has given birth knows what it takes to give life. From morning sickness to pouching out a new human being and all the issues that comes after with breastfeeding and complications with your private parts and depression. Let´s face it, your life, body and mind will never be the same. Still we are assumed to go through it and bump back to life as nothing have happened.
So if you have reached the age were childbirth is no longer an topic as well as small children you have probably entered middle age. Hopefully you are at peace with were you are at and feel comfy in your skin. But if you are like many of us, you have had sort of a wake up, where you might have released you are a bit lost. Who am I, where am I heading?
The good part of reaching middle age is that you usually have more alone time on your hands. Time that you should embrace and love. This is when you have the time to rediscover yourself. You might end up wanting to change completely, trade of your spouse, change your career, change your friend and more.
Men usually goes through a fear of death, all of a sudden they reach an age were they understand that they are actually going to die one day and need to live to the fullest while they can. They might go from coach potatoes to Iron man champions. Some might search the attention from much younger women – just to get an approval that they are still in the game..
Whatever you are going through – embrace it. This is life changing for the better. You have done a great journey so far. You have learned hopefully a lot and have becoming a stronger more confident. Crises or not, I think of it as a turning point, a sort of awakening to get you moving. This is the time to restart yourself. Love it, and give it time. Do something for you! this is your time to rediscover your self again – enjoy it.
I have been a mom for more than 25 years. My youngest is 11, so still a couple of more years were my services is still needed.
The other day my coworker and good friends (despite the age difference of 22 years) asked me a valid question, – aren’t you ever tired of thinking about everyone else but yourself? Numerous of times when she calls me, I have been forced to text her saying I can’t take you call due to being busy making dinner, coaching soccer, visiting relatives, grocery shopping or talking on the phone with either my parents, any of my children or friends or doing any other typical mom shore.
She (my young friend) is like a lot of young women of today busy with just being herself. The other day, when we (me and her ) was talking on the phone and I was busy as making a snack for my son before he was heading to his soccer practice – she just said straight out! I don’t ever want to become a mom. You are always busy, with something or someone. You are never ever just on your own.
And it got me thinking. Is she self centered or self loving?
To be honest, I love my children to death and would do anything for them, but with that said – I am also missing me, and myself. And all the joy that comes without must and chores, and caring for others.and yes of course I would choose my kids in a heartbeat if I had to choose but still!!
Is it self centered to have only oneself to care for or is it self love? .
Yes, i know its a worn out topic these days- but it is so important, I can not stress this enough. I find it sad to see so many women totally lost in a made up world. Picture perfect on the outside but totally empty on the inside.
I see these women, living up to the standard, I do to, to a certain extent, I care about my health, looks but with that said- I also care about my soul, and who I am. I was lost for many years, lost in a fake persona – who I thought I wanted to become. I was striving towards what society made up to be a norm for success, not understanding my own value, or what I can actually bring to the table. It took years to where I am today, and I am still learning, exploring and developing each and every day. Undertand the importance in self-development and always strive to become the best version of you, without being guilty. We women much more then men work from our emotions. Always consulting and considering others before we make our decision. We like to feel that we have a our backs covered, it makes us feel more secure, but is it really? If you always need to have someone else take the lead in your decisions? I´m not saying that it is wrong to consult in others now and then, just make sure that the final decision comes from you.
Because, you can hide for a while, but soon enough it will start eating you alive. And most certain it will either make you sick or make you depressed. So you have the choice, make a good one.
You are here for a reason, live up to that, it´s your path-walk it!