Treat your self as you would a new lover

Are you kind in your inner dialogue? Are the words filled with compassion, love and understanding or with harsh, judgmental attitude? Most people would probably lean towards the later. One of my goals this year is to take time and listen, listen to that inner voice.

And based on what I would hear , I would work on being kinder to my self. I mean it’s a relevant question – How exactly am I treating myself? I am glad I choose that to be one of my goals as I came to know this inner voice of mine, and it is not very nice, in fact it is extremely harsh sometimes.

Why is it, that we allow our inner dialogue to be so judgmental? We would never ever talk to someone dear to us the same way we talk to ourself..If anything this (pour inner dialogue) should be the nicest, most heartwarming, undertaking, compassionate of them all, wouldn’t you agree?

It has probably to do with being a woman as well, our constant self judgement is absurd. As women we are judged on the way we look, the way we parent, breast feeding or not, stay a home mom, working mom. Caring to much for the children, not caring enough. As a mother of both girls and boys I see a difference in the way boys act towards us as moms and the way girls act. And sadly enough most of the negative judgment comes from other women. I am not saying all, but you are all out there.

I recently took a quite big step in my career, a role I have worked hard to get. And with that “power” raises a new dilemma. How do I interact with people at work? Not to nice, as people will walk all over me and lack the respect I want and deserve. Not to harsh as they will be less cooperative and make my job even harder. So on top of this!

Here I am listening to my inner voice dealing with all the negative input I feed it, realizing this needs to stop right now! Not one single judgement thought should enter my soul, not one more correcting order! No matter what vibes the surrounding send me, it will not have a chance to touch down in my end zone.

This is me, my soul, my beautiful being- I will love you and care for you always. I will treat you the same way I would a loved one. And to spice it up, send in some curiosity and ask yourself some new questions. What do I like? How can I give my self the best day/night ever? Treat yourself as you would a new found lover😘😘

You have glitter in you ✨

4 years ago I lost my dream job, due to a large reorganization. I had been with the company for over 10 years. So somehow I thought I was safe. It took me a year to land a new position, not that I didn’t want or tried to get one, but It turned out to be more difficult then I initially had thought.

My self esteems hit rock bottom, and that year was awful. I finally manage to land a secondment that lasted for 8 months, a short employment followed in a small company (could not stand it) just in time to be head hunted to a larger company again.

This time was different, I really liked my job, coworkers, and the company. It was great. I had barely started before they started to reorganize. A lot of people was laid off and a 1,5 years later it was my turn AGAIN!

Once again I found my self unemployed, once again I had to go out there again “selling my services”. This time around it felt different, I felt at ease. I decided to put my trust in life and accept the thought that – yes, there is a plan for me too.

And sure enough I have had interviews and meetings on a weekly bases. And One of these meetings really made my day! After the interview was over and we started to walk to the door she stopped and turned to me and said – you know what – you truly have glitter in you!

I loved it. , It felt genuine and heart warming – exactly what I needed.

And as for me, I am starting a new job in a week. (After only a month unemployment) A job where I will use my magic and spread my glitter✨