Treat your self as you would a new lover

Are you kind in your inner dialogue? Are the words filled with compassion, love and understanding or with harsh, judgmental attitude? Most people would probably lean towards the later. One of my goals this year is to take time and listen, listen to that inner voice.

And based on what I would hear , I would work on being kinder to my self. I mean it’s a relevant question – How exactly am I treating myself? I am glad I choose that to be one of my goals as I came to know this inner voice of mine, and it is not very nice, in fact it is extremely harsh sometimes.

Why is it, that we allow our inner dialogue to be so judgmental? We would never ever talk to someone dear to us the same way we talk to ourself..If anything this (pour inner dialogue) should be the nicest, most heartwarming, undertaking, compassionate of them all, wouldn’t you agree?

It has probably to do with being a woman as well, our constant self judgement is absurd. As women we are judged on the way we look, the way we parent, breast feeding or not, stay a home mom, working mom. Caring to much for the children, not caring enough. As a mother of both girls and boys I see a difference in the way boys act towards us as moms and the way girls act. And sadly enough most of the negative judgment comes from other women. I am not saying all, but you are all out there.

I recently took a quite big step in my career, a role I have worked hard to get. And with that “power” raises a new dilemma. How do I interact with people at work? Not to nice, as people will walk all over me and lack the respect I want and deserve. Not to harsh as they will be less cooperative and make my job even harder. So on top of this!

Here I am listening to my inner voice dealing with all the negative input I feed it, realizing this needs to stop right now! Not one single judgement thought should enter my soul, not one more correcting order! No matter what vibes the surrounding send me, it will not have a chance to touch down in my end zone.

This is me, my soul, my beautiful being- I will love you and care for you always. I will treat you the same way I would a loved one. And to spice it up, send in some curiosity and ask yourself some new questions. What do I like? How can I give my self the best day/night ever? Treat yourself as you would a new found lover😘😘

To grow – a true blessing

Life runs by fast, you need to grab it before it’s to late. So many of us, me included are fast runners. One thing leads to another and before you know it you have a couple of half grown children on their own path to find their truth in life.

As a successful woman, who have a lot of things going right in my life. There are still room for growth. There are things that I am less happy about that I want to change going in to the new decade. It is definitely a mindset thing. And something I need to work on everyday to be successful.

I need time (witch is not on my side right now) To be able to sit back and reflect, let that inner voice have the freedom to talk. To look back on things that did not go my way and choose to see them as a blessing. And figure out what it taught me and why? And most important why I need to learn it? Most of them I figurer out and the lesson kept me moving forward.

And as times flies, the reflection get stronger and clearer and it is the perfect way to readjust the path. Small goals can lead to big achievements. So to all you lost souls, or for you who wants to move towards new improvements , but are not really clear on were you need to go – take time to reflect, listen to your inner voice, that inner whisper will guide you right. And promise to commit to yourself!

Let’s travel together 🌟

A healthy way to age

I am such a believer in body and mind working together. And as a child I was always sick. I now understand that It has to do with me actually being gluten intolerant. It caused me a childhood filled with sickness., eczema and unable to sleep.

My parents didn’t know, Back then they did not understand or even know that all that gluten could actual make you sick. Today, obviously I am gluten free. The bad thing I still struggle with is actually sugar. So 2020 will be the year I take the next step in my health journey. Because one thing I know for certain is If I eat right and exercise I feel so much better, min skin is rash free and spot less and I feel a lot less bloated. Will help me keep a healthy body throughout menopause as well. My mind becomes more clear and I feel happier 😊. I love it.

I believe you can control your world with the help of your thoughts. Think and imagine all the qualities you would like to have, think and become your dream person. Easier said then done, but becoming more aware of what you feed your temple and soul is a good start, and the benefit will definitely be worth it😊

2020 I want more for body and mind. As I am getting older, I need to care for it more by giving it the optimal nutrition, exercise, happiness, love and and care.

Goals for 2020

Adding years to a better you

Are you healthy or not? Do you care or really not? Are you in the game or hopelessly lost? Are you making sure you get the best there is for your body and soul?

Taking care of yourself is the best gift you can ever give yourself. Not only caring about your health but also your mind. Filling it with good thoughts and happy memories. Trigger it with challenges and changes. Give it love every day.

But we all know that life is not always pink and fluffy, it’s sometimes dark or at least grayish. That’s why it’s even more important to overfill yourself with good vibes those days your life feels extra good.

Try at least try to make the best out of every day. If that means sitting around doing absolutely nothing then that is what you should do.

Life passes quickly, fill it with good positive people, educate yourself everyday. Share knowledge to others, be friendly, be curious. Spoil your body and mind every day.

I promise it will add years to your life.

Stronger!

The older I get, the stronger I become- Inside. I feel better then I have felt in years and that is because I am being more relaxed to the outside world. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone anymore. I don’t need to say yes, if I don’t want that.

I am not perfect in anyway but I am happy with what I got, what I have accomplished over the years and most of all I am happy to be the person I am today.

So yes, you still need to work on yourself but in the meantime don’t forget to stop and look how far you have come. How wonderful life can be if you give it the right thoughts. Become the person want to become.

Give your self a mission and follow it. You will blossom, I promise. Love yourself and keep feeding yourself with good thoughts.

And yes, work on your physique as well, to keep mind and body in balance ⭐️

Midlife crises for a new you

What´s happening to women and men around the age of 40? A lot of us are going through what´s called midlife crises. It might not be something you at first relate as a crises, but more of a life change. Once you are there you know, you start question everything around you. Is my job the correct one for me? Is this the body I want? What about friends and most of all what about the relationships I am in? is it the correct one?

I firmly believe it´s a scare of getting older and eventually death. You have reach a milestone where you have accomplish a lot of things, maybe you had your career, there is no a thrill in chasing a better position. You mirror image does not match your outside anymore. You´re no longer your childrens no 1, all of a sudden they have their own agenda. Your partner might go through changes as well and what was once was a solid united WE is more shattered peaces of memories.

Either way something is knocking on that door, so how should you look at it in a sober manner? Understanding that this is a new phase and work yourself though it. Look at all the aspects that pops up and go though them peacefully. Step by step. Start with yourself and try to figure out what it is you want with your career? a career change is perfect now, you are older wiser and still have many more years to give. How about that body? are you giving it the correct amount of exercise, good food? Maybe it´s time for a different exercise routine?STAY YOUNGER FITNESS The last part you should look at is your relationship. Don´t think that a change of partner will bring you happiness. The change is going on inside you, it has nothing to do with your outside world.

Still welcome it, you need to fine tune your life again, and go through it on your own. No one or nothing on the outside world can make the changes for you. You need to do it, and stop calling it crises it´s finding a new you.

Healed from the inside out

Taking care of the body and mind goes hand in hand, the older I get the more important it gets to really listen in, and you do it through your soul.

A couple of years ago, I did not listen, well that was not really true. I was listening but I refused to pay attention to the signals I was getting and that unfortunately left me with chronic skin issues, mostly related to my skin. I was a pleaser in many ways and was battling with selfempowerment.

I was the nice, kind one. Always flexible and happy to anyone else but myself. Anyway, it led to problems with my skin, real skin problems.

It started out as rash around my eyes which spread to other parts of the body. This was getting really bad to a point were I could barely go out. I went to the doctor who prescribe different ornament that made my skin temporary better for a short awhile. But nothing really helped and it was so depressing. Superficial? maybe but still. So I started to listen in and also experiment with cutting out certain foods, mainly gluten and dairy.

And sure enough things started to get better. Today I am 99% gluten free by choice and my skin is much better. So now I take time to listen in and focus on just nurturing my body with good thoughts, healthy food and couple of NO´s now and then. My skin is still an issue from time to time. But if I eat well, and listen in, my body and mind are in balance and I feel great.

So from now on, I have decided to really be good to my self, by that i mean really eating healthy, what ever that means :)- More vegan, less sugar, less salt,and more meditating, pilates and me time.