Treat your self as you would a new lover

Are you kind in your inner dialogue? Are the words filled with compassion, love and understanding or with harsh, judgmental attitude? Most people would probably lean towards the later. One of my goals this year is to take time and listen, listen to that inner voice.

And based on what I would hear , I would work on being kinder to my self. I mean it’s a relevant question – How exactly am I treating myself? I am glad I choose that to be one of my goals as I came to know this inner voice of mine, and it is not very nice, in fact it is extremely harsh sometimes.

Why is it, that we allow our inner dialogue to be so judgmental? We would never ever talk to someone dear to us the same way we talk to ourself..If anything this (pour inner dialogue) should be the nicest, most heartwarming, undertaking, compassionate of them all, wouldn’t you agree?

It has probably to do with being a woman as well, our constant self judgement is absurd. As women we are judged on the way we look, the way we parent, breast feeding or not, stay a home mom, working mom. Caring to much for the children, not caring enough. As a mother of both girls and boys I see a difference in the way boys act towards us as moms and the way girls act. And sadly enough most of the negative judgment comes from other women. I am not saying all, but you are all out there.

I recently took a quite big step in my career, a role I have worked hard to get. And with that “power” raises a new dilemma. How do I interact with people at work? Not to nice, as people will walk all over me and lack the respect I want and deserve. Not to harsh as they will be less cooperative and make my job even harder. So on top of this!

Here I am listening to my inner voice dealing with all the negative input I feed it, realizing this needs to stop right now! Not one single judgement thought should enter my soul, not one more correcting order! No matter what vibes the surrounding send me, it will not have a chance to touch down in my end zone.

This is me, my soul, my beautiful being- I will love you and care for you always. I will treat you the same way I would a loved one. And to spice it up, send in some curiosity and ask yourself some new questions. What do I like? How can I give my self the best day/night ever? Treat yourself as you would a new found lover😘😘

Midlife crises for a new you

What´s happening to women and men around the age of 40? A lot of us are going through what´s called midlife crises. It might not be something you at first relate as a crises, but more of a life change. Once you are there you know, you start question everything around you. Is my job the correct one for me? Is this the body I want? What about friends and most of all what about the relationships I am in? is it the correct one?

I firmly believe it´s a scare of getting older and eventually death. You have reach a milestone where you have accomplish a lot of things, maybe you had your career, there is no a thrill in chasing a better position. You mirror image does not match your outside anymore. You´re no longer your childrens no 1, all of a sudden they have their own agenda. Your partner might go through changes as well and what was once was a solid united WE is more shattered peaces of memories.

Either way something is knocking on that door, so how should you look at it in a sober manner? Understanding that this is a new phase and work yourself though it. Look at all the aspects that pops up and go though them peacefully. Step by step. Start with yourself and try to figure out what it is you want with your career? a career change is perfect now, you are older wiser and still have many more years to give. How about that body? are you giving it the correct amount of exercise, good food? Maybe it´s time for a different exercise routine?STAY YOUNGER FITNESS The last part you should look at is your relationship. Don´t think that a change of partner will bring you happiness. The change is going on inside you, it has nothing to do with your outside world.

Still welcome it, you need to fine tune your life again, and go through it on your own. No one or nothing on the outside world can make the changes for you. You need to do it, and stop calling it crises it´s finding a new you.