Let your body decide – be kind 🧘‍♀️

Going through what I believe is premenopause, I consider myself quite lucky. I do experience some difficulty sleeping, However that have always been an issue for me. A good night sleep for me is 7 hrs tops. I don’t think my body needs more rest. And after 4 children and the total lack of sleep each child brings, I guess my body adjusted to less sleep.

Hot flushes nope, I can sometimes feel a bit warm but nothing major. I exercise regularly and during these classes I sweat like crazy, so I am probably removing all lot of excess sweat then.

However something has changes, my exercise regime or actually my preference of exercise has changed. I prefer shorter not as intense gym classes. And I have fallen in love with Yoga-flow. That is a bit strange, considering what I thought about Yoga some 7 years ago! I found it to be really boring.

But as I become older, I believe my body wants to slow down. I use to run about 10-15 km 3 times a week before, and now I can’t care less about the long runs. It’s not that I can’t, I just don’t feel for it. It might have to do with the slower cells turnover, my body craves more of a slower pace as well as more of good recovery time. And that is OK, I need to care for me, and listen to what my body wants.

Anyway – my recommendation is to listen to your inner voice. You might have to change your workout routine to match what your soul requires. And that is OK.

But as one of my goals 2020 is to work on my body (and soul) shape it without an exercise routine looking as I am preparing for a marathon.

I will update you.

When beauty travel inward – aging

A look in the mirror, puts me back in my seat again. It’s not that I dislike what I see, but somehow I always expect to see a younger version of myself. And yes, it reminds me of a lost time. Time that is so fragile, and still at your service when you are young.

It also reminds me how many worries and insecurities I had, not feeling pretty enough, not being smart enough. Trying to fit in to everyone else’s world. Not feeling secure enough to strive for my dreams. And I see younger girls in my surroundings acting exactly the way I did when I was their age. Stunning and beautiful inside out and not to mention- they are smart. If anything these girls should rule , but most of them don’t – the men still do.

And I want to scream out , girls stand up tall. You own your world – show it.

And as sure as I am getting older, I become more secure, mature and beautiful inside. I it’s almost as the beauty travels inwards and feeds the inner soul. I love whom have become, I wish I knew what I know today when I was in my twenties even my thirties.

Could it be that my inner beauty is a way for the universe to thank me for everything I have been through over the years?.All the sorrows, confusions, for all the times I didn’t love myself.

Could that be it? Well thank you universe for finally making me understand what beauty is really all about. Loving yourself inside out.

Treat your self as you would a new lover

Are you kind in your inner dialogue? Are the words filled with compassion, love and understanding or with harsh, judgmental attitude? Most people would probably lean towards the later. One of my goals this year is to take time and listen, listen to that inner voice.

And based on what I would hear , I would work on being kinder to my self. I mean it’s a relevant question – How exactly am I treating myself? I am glad I choose that to be one of my goals as I came to know this inner voice of mine, and it is not very nice, in fact it is extremely harsh sometimes.

Why is it, that we allow our inner dialogue to be so judgmental? We would never ever talk to someone dear to us the same way we talk to ourself..If anything this (pour inner dialogue) should be the nicest, most heartwarming, undertaking, compassionate of them all, wouldn’t you agree?

It has probably to do with being a woman as well, our constant self judgement is absurd. As women we are judged on the way we look, the way we parent, breast feeding or not, stay a home mom, working mom. Caring to much for the children, not caring enough. As a mother of both girls and boys I see a difference in the way boys act towards us as moms and the way girls act. And sadly enough most of the negative judgment comes from other women. I am not saying all, but you are all out there.

I recently took a quite big step in my career, a role I have worked hard to get. And with that “power” raises a new dilemma. How do I interact with people at work? Not to nice, as people will walk all over me and lack the respect I want and deserve. Not to harsh as they will be less cooperative and make my job even harder. So on top of this!

Here I am listening to my inner voice dealing with all the negative input I feed it, realizing this needs to stop right now! Not one single judgement thought should enter my soul, not one more correcting order! No matter what vibes the surrounding send me, it will not have a chance to touch down in my end zone.

This is me, my soul, my beautiful being- I will love you and care for you always. I will treat you the same way I would a loved one. And to spice it up, send in some curiosity and ask yourself some new questions. What do I like? How can I give my self the best day/night ever? Treat yourself as you would a new found lover😘😘

A healthy way to age

I am such a believer in body and mind working together. And as a child I was always sick. I now understand that It has to do with me actually being gluten intolerant. It caused me a childhood filled with sickness., eczema and unable to sleep.

My parents didn’t know, Back then they did not understand or even know that all that gluten could actual make you sick. Today, obviously I am gluten free. The bad thing I still struggle with is actually sugar. So 2020 will be the year I take the next step in my health journey. Because one thing I know for certain is If I eat right and exercise I feel so much better, min skin is rash free and spot less and I feel a lot less bloated. Will help me keep a healthy body throughout menopause as well. My mind becomes more clear and I feel happier 😊. I love it.

I believe you can control your world with the help of your thoughts. Think and imagine all the qualities you would like to have, think and become your dream person. Easier said then done, but becoming more aware of what you feed your temple and soul is a good start, and the benefit will definitely be worth it😊

2020 I want more for body and mind. As I am getting older, I need to care for it more by giving it the optimal nutrition, exercise, happiness, love and and care.

Goals for 2020

Winter skin – ageing

My skin has kind of given up. It seems like no moisturizer in the world can deal with my skin right now. Unfortunately I live we’re the sun barely raise during the winter months and even if we do get moist weather “wet and damp” it is no good for my poor skin.

I become extra dry with itchy red spots all over. It is like I am constantly allergic to everything. I definitely fells more at ease during the summer. I believe the vitamin D together with the sun gives the skin all it needs

So how can we deal with the issues? Well going from nice perfumed body lotions to pure jojoba oil. No need to buy the expensive perfume body lotion when all my body is longing for is oil.

Pure oil in such a natural form as possible is what it craves. Even though my skin is really itchy and dry, I still exfoliating almost on a daily base. I exfoliate in the shower and make sure I put on oil straight after the shower when my skin is still damp.

I can see that my skin is not as plump and moist as it use to be, and I need to nurture it in a different way these days. Inside out.

Over all, I need to take care of me in a different way nowadays. Give my self some needed TLC !

What is your skin secret?

Accepting what is – ageing

I have always been very conscious about my appearance. Not in a frantic way but it has been a part of my overall “me strategy.”.I have maintained the same weight since high school. Even though my body does not look the same as it did then. Giving I have been blessed with 4 children. It’s still the same numbers.

Now that I am older and well let’s face it – things are going south , it’s time for some bigger changes mentally. I am talking about acceptance, with a generous amount of self love.

This together with a new way of approaching everything in life. I am kinder to my self. I have adjusted my way of approaching life. My exercise routine is different- to be honest – less hard core (Iron man) and more soft Yoga 🧘🏼‍♂️.. as it comes to food – less meat and more veggies. I also practice intermittent fasting , because I strongly believe especially as we age the body needs more time to recover on a cellular level.

And so far so good. I love the way my body feels after I give it the proper care and added attitude – I am perfect the way I am – in a humble fashion😉m

Womens reson for divorce

Womens reson for divorce

Today 70% of all divorces is initiated by women. A change in economical standard have made it possible for women to take care of them self. Below is a list of the most common reason for a divorce and it might be a bit strange that cheating is not top of the list but it is not.

Communication

First of all it has to do with communication or actually the lack of it. In the beginning of a relationship we are on our toes most of the time, head over heels in love. We want to share everything and everything we share is looked on with a sort of fluffy shimmer. As the time passes, and you reach a more comfortable stage in the relationship things ease out and you don´t feel the same need of sharing. You now know each other, and are happy and content.

Give it a couple of more years, a couple of children and you might find out that what you once loved about your partner, opinions you shared might end up being things you really dislike. this is were women lack in

Lack of individual identity

So many of us, tend to get tangled in a pleasing mood towards our partners. We are so in love, and want to be together all the time. We forget who we are and become one with our partners. This is not all bad, it´s a natural phase in falling in love. But, it is so important to stay true to your own identity, remember who you are and what make you tick. Many women don´t, and wake up much later in the relationship just to discover that they live their life through their partner and children and totally lost them self.

Lost in roles

lost in being a mom a parent a wife, forgetting that you still are a couple. And remember that you need to take time off, just the 2 of you. It´s easier said then done, but yet so important. If you don´t you will eventually forget what attracted you in the first place, what was the reason to the spark in the beginning?

Seeking the perfect match

One thing that actually strikes me when it comes to some women reason for divorce is their believe that they will find a prince charming right the moment the leave their husband. I am not saying they won´t but I find it quite strange and almost charming that they actually believe there will be a lot better. Maybe you where out of luck the first time around and never had the chance to feel really madly in love, or that passion and lust everyone so well deserve. Then OK, i get it. But otherwise there must be more to a divorce than just urging the madly love and lust part.

My own reflection

Spending time with a lot of women during the years one pattern that has been quite obvious to me is the changes women go through.We have hormones running wild from childhood up to menopause and beyond, throw in a couple of children and a couple of years just focusing on everyone else, women will eventually wake up and question them self – is this it? Now that the children is a bit older and not in such a motherly need anymore, time (that once was a non existing element) is suddenly available Time to think and self reflect.

It´s not as they want a new man, as it is that they need to find them self again, need to get to know their inner spark once again, without distraction from the world around them. This phase is usually something that will change women. From being focused on everyone else the focus goes within.

This is usually not welcomed by her surroundings, who find the changes much less appealing as the women herself. Yes, the women change and become more aware of her own needs and development, and if her partner can not stand beside her while she goes through these changes, time will eventually run out and she will walk out of the marriages before without looking back once.