I hope 🤞 that you have gone through life with a large share of happiness and some must needed struggles. I see all struggles as a a part of the school of life. And most of all I see it as a sort of wake up call to guide you back to the path- you are meant to walk.
With age comes smartness in the sense of what you can actually contribute to the world 🌎. When you are young, you have a different set of drive and fearlessness, this is the best time to explore that! Hopefully you have tried everything that came your way, and dared to let your fantasies run wild.
As you are getting older a different set of responsibilities emerge, responsibilities mostly towards others. And with that comes limitations of course, but also a lot of love and happiness.
So how do you age smart? Well use your knowledge and spread it to others. You have gain so much wisdom during your life, it’s time to spread it. What stopping you? And with that, you should also live your life with dignity and respect.
Respecting yourself is crucial. Take care of yourself in all ways. You know by now what you enjoy – priorities that. You have earned it. Help others without it being a burden- see what your help actually provides to others. it’s actually proven that helping others maintain your sense of belonging which is such an important health indicator when becoming older.
Body and mind go hand in hand, always remember that and if you treat your body as a temple and your mind as a GOD, you will age smartly . With happiness comes beauty in all ways.
Taking care of the body and mind goes hand in hand, the older I get the more important it gets to really listen in, and you do it through your soul.
A couple of years ago, I did not listen, well that was not really true. I was listening but I refused to pay attention to the signals I was getting and that unfortunately left me with chronic skin issues, mostly related to my skin. I was a pleaser in many ways and was battling with selfempowerment.
I was the nice, kind one. Always flexible and happy to anyone else but myself. Anyway, it led to problems with my skin, real skin problems.
It started out as rash around my eyes which spread to other parts of the body. This was getting really bad to a point were I could barely go out. I went to the doctor who prescribe different ornament that made my skin temporary better for a short awhile. But nothing really helped and it was so depressing. Superficial? maybe but still. So I started to listen in and also experiment with cutting out certain foods, mainly gluten and dairy.
And sure enough things started to get better. Today I am 99% gluten free by choice and my skin is much better. So now I take time to listen in and focus on just nurturing my body with good thoughts, healthy food and couple of NO´s now and then. My skin is still an issue from time to time. But if I eat well, and listen in, my body and mind are in balance and I feel great.
So from now on, I have decided to really be good to my self, by that i mean really eating healthy, what ever that means :)- More vegan, less sugar, less salt,and more meditating, pilates and me time.
We live better lives than ever before, better food, better educations. We carry a better overall standard. I am not saying all but a lot of us? And still it seems that we struggle more than ever with mental health and building long lasting relationships with other people. What triggers that?
Is it because we have 24 hours access to a larger world, full of new things and people to explore? Endless of good and meaningless information to take part of, this being the era of information.
Should we “sacrifice” ourself for someone else, or should we stay true to our self no matter what? We know from science that people live longer and are generally happier and healthier in physical relationships, but does that mean only love one partner of the opposite sex (or same for that matter) or could it be a new sort of relationship we’re you have many friends both öff and online and choose a parter for parenting your children? You might even choose one of your many friends to partner up for the parenting part. Is the long lasting relationship and marriage a dying form of art?
Could it be that we do not have time for anyone in our life except ourself? So none or nothing else matters? Or could it be that love today has another meaning than it did 2 decade ago, especially with the independence and liberation of the woman? Do the future hold a different kind of relationship?
Will future generation look back at us and wonder what was wrong with us? Or will they try to understand how we did it in a world were you don’t have time nor patience to waste on problems and problem solving.
In the future, will independence be the way everyone lives? Not being attach to anyone not even your children?
We women are such powerful beings, I think we underestimate how fantastic we are. We give life, carry life and goes through hormone changes through out our life, if it would happened to a man, it would break him down and probably be consider as an illness.
We of us who has given birth knows what it takes to give life. From morning sickness to pouching out a new human being and all the issues that comes after with breastfeeding and complications with your private parts and depression. Let´s face it, your life, body and mind will never be the same. Still we are assumed to go through it and bump back to life as nothing have happened.
So if you have reached the age were childbirth is no longer an topic as well as small children you have probably entered middle age. Hopefully you are at peace with were you are at and feel comfy in your skin. But if you are like many of us, you have had sort of a wake up, where you might have released you are a bit lost. Who am I, where am I heading?
The good part of reaching middle age is that you usually have more alone time on your hands. Time that you should embrace and love. This is when you have the time to rediscover yourself. You might end up wanting to change completely, trade of your spouse, change your career, change your friend and more.
Men usually goes through a fear of death, all of a sudden they reach an age were they understand that they are actually going to die one day and need to live to the fullest while they can. They might go from coach potatoes to Iron man champions. Some might search the attention from much younger women – just to get an approval that they are still in the game..
Whatever you are going through – embrace it. This is life changing for the better. You have done a great journey so far. You have learned hopefully a lot and have becoming a stronger more confident. Crises or not, I think of it as a turning point, a sort of awakening to get you moving. This is the time to restart yourself. Love it, and give it time. Do something for you! this is your time to rediscover your self again – enjoy it.
Life has given me a lot of heads up and learnings the last couple years. It’s finally time to work on them.
3 areas that needs to be in harmony for everything to work out. I see setbacks as a reminder sent from life itself to get your act together and move towards your own goals. Be strong enough to stand up for your own inner hopes and thoughts, not someone else’s 👉🏻 yours and yours only.
Working on a detailed plan is a must👉🏻 just to remind you on where you are going.
My areas of plans are.
Business 👉🏻 still have plenty of more work time in me, don’t believe in retirement at the age of 40 unless you have another for filling purpose. The plan is in making the focus now is moving forward regardless
Body 👉🏻 nutrition, health and anti-aging, not that I am afraid of getting older. I just want to be the best version of me, a bit leaner and detoxed.
Me 👉🏻this being the most critical, I need to work on me to be able to work on the rest❤️
Sometimes life plays us tricks, we can not fully understand. And the more we fight it, the more we will get it it back. You have a special call, that you are supposed to follow, if you keep denying it, it will haunt you one way or the other, until You get it. H
I have had a sequence of happenings in my life which have left me in the exact same place I was a couple years ago. For sure the time that passed have left me with a lot more knowledge and a couple of new friends. So nothing is in vain, but still. It’s like life is trying to tell me you are at the wrong place 👉🏻 start listening to your inner voice and choose the right path.
So People, accept necessary changes and move towards your inner freedom ⭐️.
So now after a very turbulent week, I have decided to accept, move on to a new beginning 👉🏻. I will trust in life, and let it guide me to were I am suppose to be.
I have been a mom for more than 25 years. My youngest is 11, so still a couple of more years were my services is still needed.
The other day my coworker and good friends (despite the age difference of 22 years) asked me a valid question, – aren’t you ever tired of thinking about everyone else but yourself? Numerous of times when she calls me, I have been forced to text her saying I can’t take you call due to being busy making dinner, coaching soccer, visiting relatives, grocery shopping or talking on the phone with either my parents, any of my children or friends or doing any other typical mom shore.
She (my young friend) is like a lot of young women of today busy with just being herself. The other day, when we (me and her ) was talking on the phone and I was busy as making a snack for my son before he was heading to his soccer practice – she just said straight out! I don’t ever want to become a mom. You are always busy, with something or someone. You are never ever just on your own.
And it got me thinking. Is she self centered or self loving?
To be honest, I love my children to death and would do anything for them, but with that said – I am also missing me, and myself. And all the joy that comes without must and chores, and caring for others.and yes of course I would choose my kids in a heartbeat if I had to choose but still!!
Is it self centered to have only oneself to care for or is it self love? .