Treat your self as you would a new lover

Are you kind in your inner dialogue? Are the words filled with compassion, love and understanding or with harsh, judgmental attitude? Most people would probably lean towards the later. One of my goals this year is to take time and listen, listen to that inner voice.

And based on what I would hear , I would work on being kinder to my self. I mean it’s a relevant question – How exactly am I treating myself? I am glad I choose that to be one of my goals as I came to know this inner voice of mine, and it is not very nice, in fact it is extremely harsh sometimes.

Why is it, that we allow our inner dialogue to be so judgmental? We would never ever talk to someone dear to us the same way we talk to ourself..If anything this (pour inner dialogue) should be the nicest, most heartwarming, undertaking, compassionate of them all, wouldn’t you agree?

It has probably to do with being a woman as well, our constant self judgement is absurd. As women we are judged on the way we look, the way we parent, breast feeding or not, stay a home mom, working mom. Caring to much for the children, not caring enough. As a mother of both girls and boys I see a difference in the way boys act towards us as moms and the way girls act. And sadly enough most of the negative judgment comes from other women. I am not saying all, but you are all out there.

I recently took a quite big step in my career, a role I have worked hard to get. And with that “power” raises a new dilemma. How do I interact with people at work? Not to nice, as people will walk all over me and lack the respect I want and deserve. Not to harsh as they will be less cooperative and make my job even harder. So on top of this!

Here I am listening to my inner voice dealing with all the negative input I feed it, realizing this needs to stop right now! Not one single judgement thought should enter my soul, not one more correcting order! No matter what vibes the surrounding send me, it will not have a chance to touch down in my end zone.

This is me, my soul, my beautiful being- I will love you and care for you always. I will treat you the same way I would a loved one. And to spice it up, send in some curiosity and ask yourself some new questions. What do I like? How can I give my self the best day/night ever? Treat yourself as you would a new found lover😘😘

What is your whisper? as a woman?

As a modern woman, I enjoy becoming older in many ways, most because I see a clear difference in the way women are able to bloom the way they are suppose to. I strongly believe that we all have a cal,l a purpose, a meaning. You might not know what it is, but sooner or later you will find that inner whisper.

The best part of growing older is that you are more in tune with your self. You have been through hardships and pains, happy places as well as sad. These hardships have shaped you to the person you are today. It can be good and of course bad. But you and only you have the power to change if you want to. Is it your time now to become who you want to become. Listen in to that voice to that inner whisper, what is it telling you?

I have had the privilege to be surrounded by some strong women, but also some that that are a bit lost. I was also a bit lost, I think we all are from time to time, it all comes down to believing in yourself and trusting that inner whisper. Looking at my daughters I feel so proud, they are so strong and smart and fully aware of their capabilities, as many of the young woman out there today. We can thank older women who has walk the path before us, who has struggled and won, who have raised strong and warm sons and daughters who are today the parent of these strong daughters and also sons.

So all you out there, take time to listen in to your inner voice. The world need your service in one way or another, regardless of what your surrounding tells you.

Chasing youth

Is it finally OK to become older if you are a woman? or do older women become invisible? I undertand the biology behind it, older women cannot reproduce anymore and become less interesting in because of that, but what else is there? There must be more to the story?

In my eyes these women are the strongest people walking on this earth. They have been through so much and have developed in to such strong individuals. Not only have they been through all sorts of hormonal changes, they have been project leaders taking care of children, husbands and their home and maybe she has even managed to squeeze in a career as well.

After all she has been through she should be honored and worshiped. So what is it that makes aging difficult for women? Why do a we continue chasing youth? Would we chase it the same way if women past 50 where looked upp on as marvelous creators? If they where able to bloom fully without dreading being tradeoff for a younger model?

However I do see a different trend approaching a trend where older women finally are accepted the same way older men are. ‘I am unsure if men fancy the trend as much as we women do. See all these beauties in a full set of grey hair, models working actively way up in their 60-70.

So does it mean that we can finally stop chasing youth? that we can finally relax and become true heroes way up in our 70ties? And don´t forget that beauty is only skin deep, the most beautiful thing is the person inside – all that fantastic knowledge and wisdom she have gained during all those years.

Summer days blues 👉🏻 new beginnings

Well one more summer is coming to its end. Every summer is the same, looking forward to the fall and new possibilities , but not the end of the long beautiful summer nights.. It marks the end of one school year, so in many ways a new beginning.

We are lucky enough to be able to spend a good part of the summer in summer houses down south. I have been able to work from there so I have been quite busy all summer when the rest of the family have been off.

This summer have felt a bit sad in many ways and I wonder what makes it feel this way? A part of growing older, not really being where I want to be in life, and yet see another summer pass. And aslo to the fact that I am not to happy about the cold and dark upcoming season. And I am also going in to my next part in my life 👉🏻menopause. No symptoms other than a skipped period and som molding and feeling bloated

I am truly happy about menopause as it makes me a stronger and more confident, but it will rob me of my youth as it will mark an end of my fertile days. But hey this also marks a new beginning of an older happier me who is looking forward entering a new beginning. I hope you all hade a great summer.