It hit me like a brick wall the other day when spending some quality time with a very close friend of mine. As a woman you are aiming most of your life to be – presentable.
Your life is not owned by you, it’s owned by everyone else but you. And your focus is being presentable for them. As a young girl, most of us are here to please and serve, it comes natural to be the caregivers. Even in role play. while young boys are continuing playing the same games as they always do the girl are there caring for others.
Moving on starting school, boys are still giving more time in the classroom acting out and being listen to, as they are demanding their space from the get go! Girls are still just being presentable.
Moving up to university girls are getting the better grades, studying harder with minimal fuss, still very few collages professors are well paid women.
Landing their first job, they are faced with lesser pay for equal job usually preforming better then the men. Woman are still less listened to, and need to lean and demand their place, are still being questioned and judged 👉🏻 are they being presentable enough?
Woman preforms sports on as high level as the men but can rarely make a living of it, nor does their team draw as big crowds.
As they become mothers they become less attractive in the job market. As they become older and they become less presentable, and their value drops even more.
So all you girls out there all you warriors, young athletes, older women 👉🏻 stop being presentable.
I cannot stress enough that I am very blessed in many areas, I have 4 beautiful children and my health intact. I have wonderful friends, a good family man.
I work hard to keep my life in balance. I enjoy being involved in my children’s life, staying fit which it’s a struggle for sure as the body is living it’s own life those days😏.
I have during the past years really been through a self exploring journey, yes it might be selfish but a absolute must, as I was literally dying inside. These years been up and down, but mostly lost.
I see so many women my own age going through the same thing and I understand with children and becoming mother your life and focus changes completely. You tend to give up everything that meant something to you earlier in life for all the right reason of-course 👉🏻 you need to focus on your children.
However I am strong believer in following your inner glow, and until you fully do that you will not feel complete- because the WORLD needs it, It’s your purpose. For some it might to be a wife and care for your children and husband, for others being a yoga instructor. Whatever the call is, when you find it, you will know. For me it is working with women in all areas, strengthen them. I want to assist them on their journey, whatever that might be.
My struggle is getting it through the filter at home. I keep going back to my old habits of thinking. I am only blaming myself, no one ☝🏻 else to blame. I keep fine turning all the time, and that is probably necessary to keep me focused and on track. However it’s frustrating, I want to move faster, but feel like I am stuck. I know in my heart what to do, to be able to bloom fully, it will hurt, and it will be a challenge but soo worth it in the end! I will keep you posted.
Always keep your inner glow, glowing 🔥